Talaaq

Saying "Me tumhain talaq deta hu"

Q: While we were fighting on some issue I said to my wife that Me tumhain talaq deta hu 2 times. One time clearly and the 2nd time she kept her hand on my mouth so words were not delivered clearly. That time I was in anger. After that I felt that I have done a big mistake. We love each other and never thought to leave each other. Please guide us what is the state of our relation?

Husband telling the wife "go and don't come back"

Q: I had to go buy stock for the company I work for and I was scared to tell my husband this because he would badger me about doing things for the company so I told him a lie and said I went to China Mall for myself instead. On numerous occasions I did tell him the truth and informed him before leaving the garage but he always used to fight with me saying that I should not do anything for the company. On one occasion he even came to the garage and caused a disturbance.  I almost lost my job but thankfully my manager spoke on my behalf. On Saturday, 1 February 2014 I went home after work my husband told me in front of his mother, father and uncle that I must leave and not come back. I need to know what is the status of my nikkah as per shariah?

Waswasas regarding Talaaq

Q: My husband suffers from severe waswasas. We are newly married and both of us are extremely in love and happy with each other. However due to his waswasa problem he keeps on getting thoughts in his mind to say the words of divorce. This condition has become so severe that he cries continuously for hours because he is scared that he is going to loose me. Thus we have consulted with an Aalim an marriage councillor and he has told my husband to make a shart that divorce will only take place after consultation with an Aalim and when another Aalim is a witness(to combat the waswasa) so now we would like to know if due to waswasa he says the words will talaaq fall? (N.B. he has a history of severe waswasas in wudhu and salaah so much so that he repeats his witr about 12 times because of waswasa whether he read qunoot or not) please help! If there is any other solution it would be appreciated if you include it in the reply.

Supporting one's ex-wife

Q: As far as I know, one cannot live with ones x-wife in the same home and support her if she is an orphan and does not have brothers to take care of her? Even if you sleep in separate bedrooms and have no physical relations. Is there supporting Ayats and hadith that one may use if one wants to convince someone that this is not permissible?

Husband saying "mere traf sa tum Azad ho"

Q: I have a question about my situation with my wife. We were not fighting over anything only I was stopping her from going to a friend’s place. I said to her that ‘I can’t stop you from going to your friends home, tum meri taraf say azad ho, you can go to her place or but my son can’t go with you…you can go wherever you want to go’. I said that twice exactly *mere traf sa tum Azad ho, tumhei main nahi rok sakta liken mera beta us ke ghar nahi jaie ga*. I did not have any intention of divorce because I cannot think of this act. I am worried about my choice of words as I used the word ‘azaad’.  I am so confused and I had no idea that the word ‘azaad’ also refers to divorce. Please guide.

Saying to one's wife "I give you one"

Q: I am married and I had a argument with my wife. Whilst arguing one thing I said to her whilst in anger was “I will give you divorce” My intention
was that I would consider a talaaq not give a talaaq. We carried on arguing and I kept telling her to be quiet and speak to me slowly. She did not and this made me very angry and in that situation I said "I give you I give you one" realising that what I was about to say could break our marriage I stopped short of saying anything else. I did not mention the Talaaq  word when I said “I give you” as I realised what it would mean I had given divorce. It was not my intention to give talaaq, my intention was to stop the argument. I have been told that I have used kinayah words and because I had realised what it would mean if I had said the Talaq word and I stopped short of saying the actual word and I did not have intention of divorce, the Talaq has not taken place. Can you please confirm that what I have understood is correct. Please note I follow the Hanafi school of thought.