Talaaq

Talaaq in the state of anger

Q: My husband and I have been married since last year July. During this time we have had a tumultuous relationship whereby he verbally gave me talaaq on more than three different occasions. We assumed it was said out of anger and no other processes where taken like the 3 month waiting period or witnesses to say we tried reconciling. I am currently 4 months pregnant and we do not wish to be divorced, for the baby's sake of course and because we wish to have a life together. We have consulted two moulanas and they say our marriage was over with the first talaq given. My question is if the proper process for idaah or that waiting period for reconciliation was not given to us how can our divorce be valid (I do know about the viewpoint that if its said out of anger it is not accepted and we do take how serious the words are, we have both made mistakes). Is there any way forward for us, can he ask for "ruju" because we were not given  information on the proper process. We have been together since, but my husband is no longer in the house due to the moulana saying its haram. For our future and the baby is there a way to reconcile? We do not want to be divorced and even after the talaq was verbally said in anger we would reconcile. Please help me with information and a way forward?

Talaaq via sms

Q: I am a Palestinian Muslim living in Norway. I have a problem. I sent my wife an sms message to divorce her. The message clearly says that I divorced her. Is an sms message considered a valid method for divorce, exactly as divorcing her face-to-face? I now regret sending her this message, is there any hope for returning to her as I desire now. (By the way, I divorced my wife 2 times before face-to-face but this third time was via sms message.) I did this because she ignored me and refused to answer my phone calls or reply to my sms messages, and therefore I wanted to avenge her.

Suspending talaaq upon the wife coming to the UK

Q: My husband gave me first talaq in 2005 when I was in UK with him. He sent me to Pakistan a year ago and gave me 2 conditional talaqs, which he said would become valid in case I travelled to UK with out his permission. The exact words he used in his email were 'I give you two conditional talaaqs. It means that the moment you set foot on the soil of UK, or republic of ireland these will automatically become valid till I take it back'. Now he has asked his father to buy me the tickets for UK along with my 2 children. My question is, can I travel back to UK as his wife or does he have to say that he takes me back as his wife and I can come to UK via email or through any one else. I hope I made my question clear to you.

Contributing towards the maintenance of one's child after talaaq

Q: I married a person knowing all his situations and all. He has already given divocre to a lady who was his cousin, then he married me and that lady married someone else and my husband had a son from her! Now the issue is that the lady (ex-wife) of my husband took divorce from her second husband as well and back to her parents house living with her son. My husband now suggested her parents that not to marry her again because he'll fulfill all her and their child's requirements and will provide her with shelter and money to spend her life. I want to know what Allah and his Rasool sallalahu alayhe wasslam say about a non-mehram man taking responsibility of a woman?

Husband telling the wife "we should separate"

Q: Could you please give clarity on the issue of talaaq. If I have said to my wife that we should separate and subsequent to that we are both in agreement that our marriage is over. Will this be considered a talaq? Secondly, if i have uttered the words, I hereby give you a talaq and she records it on her cellphone, when nobody else is around, will that stand as a valid talaq? Lastly, if I have said the words and the same night my wife states that she has started spotting (starting menstruating), does it make the talaq invalid or is it simply a case of the Iddah period being moved till after spotting ends?

Custody of a daughter

Q: My wife has asked for khula. My child is 10 months old but not breast feeding. My wife ran away from home 3 months back in the morning at 4am without my knowledge. On finding out she was at her parents house and I involved our community to sort this dispute out. She had the condition I get a separate house which I did but she still refused to come. She has been proved before the community that she has been lying and also on one occasion she stole my documents which were confidential, she took this documents away from me without my knowledge. My main concern is the welfare of my baby and further more with all this kind of attitude of lying and stealing my daughter may develop this kind of attitude. I want advice on the custody of my daughter, can I get my daughters custody under such a circumstance having have proved that she has been lying to an extend stated in the letter of khula is that she wants a separate house and that I have refused which is also a lie and the community members are a witness of the same. She also ended up stealing from me. Please help me and advise.