Q: I am really interest in Islam and there is so much peace in it but there are few things confusing me.
Why are men favoured with rewads? For example, I am reading on Islamic websites that Allah Ta'ala favours men over women in paradise because he grants them a reward that is not granted to women which is having many beautiful spouses, but women only have one spouse and there is one exlusive reward for men but no exclusive rewards to women. From this my understanding it that all rewards granted to women are granted to men, but not all rewards granted to men are given to women, or at least they are not rewarded as much as men for their worship.
So for example, if a man and a woman both have 10 000 deeds, lets say each gets the same number and quality of palace, garden, rivers, so in all of that they are equal, but the man will be given many wives (for example 10) and the women is given only one husband, so even though both have the same level of piety, the man is given more rewards than the woman by 9. Does the woman get compensated with more of another form of reward? Otherwise, how can it be justice that even though both have the same number of good deeds the man gets more? But
When it comes to punishment, then it seems that women get punished more. For example, in marriage, I always see husband abuse being a major sin and warned about, but I do not see anyone saying that wife abuse is a major sin, nor it has been warned about and associated with punishment.
A: There is no need to confuse yourself. Each person who goes into paradise will get all that he desires. The Quraan and hadeeth have explained certain rewards. All the rewards will be known once you reach paradise insha Allah. Each person will feel so satisfied and fulfilled that he will not aspire for anything further. The more important thing is to aspire and get into paradise, not to confuse your mind with the so-called gender equality, shaytaani concepts.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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