Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: "Over the past weekend in Cape Town, a so-called 'Muslim' Lesbian couple made 'Nikaah'. A few queries: 

Islamically, what is the status of these girls? Is it correct to say they have committed Kufr and are out of the fold of Islam? 

Do the families of these girls excommunicate them or how must they be dealt with? 

If the parent/s of these girls condone this 'marriage', attended it and approved, what is the status of their Imaan? Have they also committed Kufr and left Islam? Does the family and society have to excommunicate them for this? 

Someone says, 'only Allah can judge', 'make Dua for them and they may return to Islam', 'we can't be harsh on them otherwise they may never listen', are these statements correct? 

Could Hazrat proffer Naseehat on this matter?

Q: Is it permissible for a woman to breastfeed her sister's children with the intention of making them mahram to her children?

Q: Is it permissible for a father to walk his daughter down the aisle on her wedding day?

Q: If husband does not provide you with expenses regarding shopping and other medical needs and basic daily needs and said you have your own job you can fulfill your expenses then what does Islam say? 

In contrast, he fixed an amount for his parents but not for his wife, so what does Islam suggest?

Q: Is it permissible to shave a toddlers hair (e.g. 1 year old) as some say the hair will grow thicker thereafter?

Q: Is it okay to buy clothes for my unborn baby?

Q: I've heard girls say that they romanticize their future by making up imaginary scenarios of them with their imaginary (non -existent) husband like holding hands, forehead kiss, etc. Is this fantasizing? Will one be sinful?

Q: I've got two sons. They're toddlers. 

My elder son received alot of money as a gift when he was a baby while the second one didn't receive as much. I was thinking of converting their cash to gold. Will it be okay for me to give money to add only to the younger one so I can get the same amount of gold for each child or will it be unfair to the older child? 

We will not inform them of this when they are older.

Q: I terminated my pregnancy in 6 months and this is murder. Is there any kaffara or diyat? Kindly guide me what can I do.

Q: Should a parent be equal to all of their children in terms of finance and gifts? 

For example: There are 4 brothers. No. 1 is a doctor, set up by the father but paid back. No. 2 is in the business with his father as a partner, also paid back. No. 3 is still studying. No. 4 is an aalim and recently started working in the business. The father wants to set no. 4 up eventually. 

Question: Will it be fair if the father sets up no. 4 in the business, without paying back. Basically giving him a business and not giving any other brother the same.