Validity of a secret nikaah
Q: Is a secret nikaah in which there are witnesses and where immediate family have been notified acceptable under Hanafi rulings?
Nikaah & Marriage Issues
Husband financially responsible for wife's stay at her father's house if he gave permission
Q: I wanted to find out if I go to my father's house for holiday, is my husband still financially responsible for me during my stay there or is it my father's duty?
Bride going to the ladies section of the masjid for her nikaah
Q: The bride chose a musjid which has a ladies section and desires to be present for her nikkah. Is this allowed?
Furthermore, does she have to choose the musjid closest to home or can she use a musjid 2.5km away?
Mentioning one's illnesses when seeking a wife
Q:
1. What kind of illnesses would one have to disclose when seeking a wife?
2. If the illness is not current, does it have to be disclosed i.e. if one used to have ocd/waswasa issues in the past and one has healed a great amount, would one have to inform a potential spouse of it in case it could creep up again?
Father of the boy seeing the girl before his son marries her
Q: Is this genuine that for nikaah, first the father and mother of the boy should go and see the bride followed by the sister/sisters and then the boy should go and see the girl for nikaah. This seems as the different rounds of selection.
Masturbation
Q: Scholars who don't allow masturbation as adopting lesser of the two evils like to avoid zina when there is real fear, do these scholars consider masturbation and zina equal in sin, when only done to avoid zina. What's their stance like many Maliki scholars and Shafi?
Feeling pleasure with water pressure when washing one's private area
Q: After urinating, when rinsing the private area with the hand shower, the pressure of water is satisfying sometimes. I get really aroused. Is this counted as masturbation? Do I have to perform a ghusl?
Secret nikaah
Q: I am married and a widow who has children of his own wants to make Nikah with me, but we both want to keep it secret (although in Islam nikah should be notified to family and friends) but in our current circumstances it is very hard. She says that she does not require anything from but to fulfill her sexual desires. We both agree on this that it will remain a secret and will not affect both families at any level.
As her children are elders and she said that her children will not accept my decision and hate will grow if she declares nikah. So as husband I will fulfill her nan-nafqa although she is repeatedly denying as she is earning so she said she won't require anything.
The main purpose for this nikah is to avoid sin. So what should we do as a declaration will lead to unpleasant results from both families.
Please guide in all possible scenerios.
Husband inviting his parents home without discussing with his wife
Q: I'd like to know can a husband invite his parents home without discussing with his wife if she is willing to host them?
Sacrificing worldly gain for one's family
Q: I had multiple opportunities to go to other countries but due to my wife's fertility issues I had to sacrifice my career and stay in India itself.
For the first child, I had to sacrifice many onsite travels as I had to be in India as ease of treatment is good here. When she got pregnant, I got US 2 Years and then Canada 2 years, Germany but I had to decline as we planned for a 2nd baby and then again she needed treatment. We struggled a lot to find good doctors during treatment so I always believed going out would again delay the process and it will take time.
Kindly help me how could I convince myself, sometimes I get thoughts like why it is happening to me.
Also I have my mother who is staying with me, even though I have an elder brother but she prefers so stay with me. Kindly guide how do I proceed in this case too.