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Woman living in her own home after separating from her husband

2 weeks ago By user2

Q: I am writing to humbly request your religious guidance regarding my current situation. 

I am presently separated from my husband by mutual agreement. No Khula or Talaaq has been pronounced. The reason for this separation is his ongoing addiction to drugs. 

For the past 12 years I have made every effort for him to seek treatment. However, the pattern has been that he remains sober for approximately six months, after which he relapses. During these periods he does not reside at home and does not fulfill his responsibilities toward myself and our four children. 

I advised him to rent a separate accommodation and to focus on his treatment and recovery, with the hope that if Allah grants him complete healing, we may consider reconciliation in the future. 

Alhamdulillah, I own my own home. My house is 2 minutes away from my parents. And it is safe. I therefore kindly request your ruling on the following two matters: 

1. Residence during separation Is it Islamically permissible for me to continue residing in my own home with my four children during this period of separation? My two sons are 11 and 2 years old. And my two daughters are 10 years old and 8 months old. I do have parents, however their home is small in size. Additionally, my father has a very short temper, and I am currently not in a mental or emotional state to bear the daily stress and pressure that would arise from living with them. 

2. Employment and Transportation As I don't know for long my husband will be able to provide for us, is it permissible for me to seek employment to support myself and my children? Furthermore, is it permissible for me to obtain a driving license and own a car to facilitate the care of my children and the management of my daily responsibilities? 

I would greatly appreciate your scholarly advice and guidance so that I may conduct my affairs in accordance with the rulings of Shariah. 

Remaining positive in times of difficulty

3 months ago By user2

Q: I have alot of negativity which stems from the house I stay in. My father doesn't provide for us so I feel very depressed that I have to buy things with my own money (necessities like groceries toiletries etc.). So when my elder sister (who has more money than me) says that I should cheer up and I shouldn't be so sulky and my imaan is weak, I feel like a failure and that nobody listens to me. Obviously my Allah listens to me and there is khair behind everything but it hurts for your own family to judge you especially when you are trying to be a better Muslim and they just shatter you like that. 

Is my Imaan really weak if I get sad when I have to spend money on myself? Kindly provide a dua I can recite to get this evil habit out of me.

Making dua with conviction of acceptance

6 months ago By user2

Q: We are taught to make dua with full sincerity, humility, and desire — asking Allah like a child asks a parent. At the same time, we are told to have complete tawakkul and accept that what we ask for may not be good for us, so Allah may not grant it. This sometimes feels confusing. How should a believer balance making strong, heartfelt dua for something they desire, while also trusting Allah’s decision without feeling disappointed or conflicted? 

Premarital relationship

1 year ago By user2

Q: I used to talk to a girl online. She ended everything with me, and I was quite hurt by that. I didn't feel like doing anything. During this time, I developed a healthy bond with Allah (Alhamdulillah). I still like her. I pray to Allah for her. 

Firstly, please tell me if it would be appropriate for me to like her in this scenario? And can I pray to Allah for her? My intentions are completely pure, with the sole aim of marriage, and my resolve is firm. Indeed, Allah knows the best of intentions. 

Can I ask her through chat if she would marry me or not? Actually, she is angry with me over something, and if I ask her parents without talking to her first, she will obviously refuse. Can I, while avoiding immoralities and staying within boundaries, try to convince her through chat, considering that there is no concern of seclusion or privacy in this case? For sure, after this, I won’t maintain any contact with her. 

I have a strong desire for this with all pure and clear intentions. I want to convince her on my own. But if I can’t, should I tell my sister to speak to her on my behalf? 

Apart from this, I have created an Instagram account with the aim of spreading knowledge about religion and inviting others to Islam. I want her to come towards Allah as well. So, can I invite her for this purpose and share Islamic content with her? 

**Being very honest, you may find this strange, but I am grateful to Allah for His help and for connecting me with Him. My intentions are completely pure, and I truly want this. Can I do this while staying within the limits and etiquettes of Islam? Please guide me well and also give me your advice on what I should do.

Keeping in contact with a girl one intends to marry

1 year ago By user2

Q: I love a girl and I want to marry her... She also loves me and agrees to marry me but I need some time to settle and marry her. We both are not like boyfriend and girlfriend. We don't say to each other I love you and all but we talk to each other. Is this a haraam relationship? We both are not in a relationship but is that consider as a haraam relationship?

Overcoming one's fears

1 year ago By user2

Q: Wherever I work, I am always afraid of the people and have fear for people. 

When I am given some work, I start thinking a lot about how to do it and what to do. 

The fear of the boss and some other people is sitting in my heart and mind. I don't have much mental peace and I make silly mistakes, small mistakes happen easily which become big. 

I also have fear of taking leave, fear of work not being completed, fear of asking something, I have all these fears. 

My dream is to get a job in the government or a company like that nearby. I have applied at many places but I am failing and I am not getting a call from big companies and dream that our home loan gets quickly finished. 

I request for a wazifa, Amal or Taaweez if any to benefit myself and also that my home loan gets finished up soon.

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