Miscellaneous

Assisting one's mother financially

Q: My mom divorced 15 years ago. My dad died 10 years ago but after his death since we were kids, mom decided to come and stay with us. She doesn't share any inheritance saying it's her right and her property and the rent which came from the property she favours the eldest brother and doesn't give us any of the part for 9 years. 

Now I am married and she's demanding me to take care of her monthly allowance which I simply denied because I am living separately and said that for 9 years you didn't give me my money that we got from tenants neither the share of the inheritance so why would I give you the allowance. Is it allowed for me to deny the request based on that or should I give her the allowance which I know will be given to my eldest brother who's 28 and physically good enough to earn by his own but he doesn't since he's spoiled by my mother and doesn't will to work or contribute to the house at all?

Brother in law and sister in law observing strict purdah

Q: I recently heard someone say that it is permissible for the sister-in-law to not make parda from her brother-in-law when: 

1. There is no scope of fitna. 

2. When it becomes difficult for her to leave her own room for basic needs. 

My friend has recently married into a family of 6. They live in a small flat. Her brother-in- law is 6 years younger than her and she claims he is an actual replica of her brother in her maternal home. There isn't a chance that they can ever be alone. It becomes difficult for her to constantly be in her cloak, burkha and pardah the entire day almost as if she is at a guests home and not in a home that she has a right to stay in. What is the ruling regarding this?

Leaving unwanted furniture for the dirt truck to pick up

Q: My mother complained that the bags that people put next to a tree on our road gets collected quickly and that we are needlessly keeping unwanted furniture etc. in our house when it can get collected quickly and for free. She threw some of our bags in that area. 

I told her fly-tipping is wrong but she says that everyone does it. Fly-tipping is considered illegal and finable. I’m worried that she may be sinning by doing so. Does she have to repent? I’m also worried that I may have aided her as she asked for a bag to collect the waste to throw out and I reluctantly gave her.