Q: I am currently taking care of my parents who live in the unit next to me in a complex. My father wants me to buy a house so that I can accommodate the two of them (parents want to buy the house for me) but they do not want my husband to stay with us (they can't get along) and don't want my married children or grandchildren to visit on a regular basis. I cannot live without my husband and children. My parents want me exclusively to take care of them.
I'm the daughter and I have 3 brothers who don't want to take care of them because of previous issues with their wives. I do not mind living the way I'm living in a rented place because I have my own space and they have their own space.
Am I suppose to be listening to my parents or does my own family (husband) take priority. What is the Islamic view?
A: Your primary duty is your husband and children. And it is definitely an honour and virtue to take good care of your parents but this should not be done by neglecting your husband or children in any way. Your parents are incorrect in demanding that you must be exclusively dedicated to them.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
Answered by: