forced marriages

Q: I am a 25 year old sunni girl. My father is hafz of Quran. I was pressurized to marry with my cousin brother while my family and my cousin brother family were knowing I wanted to marry with a good Muslim boy who is doctor, dr ahmad, and he was a dawa worker too. I broke my engagement for doctor ahmad. I refused many proposal for nikah. I resist l cried and was taking medicine for sleep n headache for 3 yrs. But my father said Let her cry, she will have to accept my decision at any cost.

Then my parents stop talking with me and changed their behaviour to pressurize on me and my father said to doctor ahmad Because you are not of my location. I wanted to keep my daughter near me. This was his basis of rejection to dr ahmad. Dr.ahmad replied to him. It can't be a basis of rejection as per sharia for proposal to daughter marriage.

As per kufu he was from a good family background ,compatible with me. Knowing all my facts and choice.my cousin brother sent proposal to my father for nikah with me. I warned my cousin brother don't marry with me otherwise you may get divorce in future.but he said. Because I love you ayesha and your father also like me So this nikah will be valid. Later after nikah I will treat very well with you.so you will start loving with me.

Because every one was against me and was blaming not to listening my fathers choice. So I had to accept nikah with my cousin brother. After one year of nikah. I text to doctor ahmad.I said there is nothing like wife and husband relationship between me and my husband. Dr ahmad told me. I will still accept you. I said to ahmad my husband don't behave badly with me.but still I couldn't stop loving you. Then my husband told to dr ahmad I admit my fault.she still cry for you ahmad.if you will ask me Now i am ready to give divorce. Then dr.ahmad gave another chance to my husband and make an agreement He said to my husband During 1.5 yr of your married life You couldn't won your wife heart. Ahmad said I am giving 1.5 more year to spend you couple together. If she would still like to marry with ahmad. You will have to give her divorce. But if love would develop as a husband wife between you couple.then DrAhmad wll go away from you people

In this agreement everyone were agreed.

My 2 questions in this regard are these of the followings QUESTIONS:

(1)= In such a marriage where girl is accepting nikah due to pressure and her family members were making her fear of father might get ill or he may die(incase if she would say NO during nikah consent.) Parents,boy with whom girl is going to marry .and all family members of boy were aware as this was a forceful nikah. In such nikah if later girl revolt and want to marry with her previous choice. So she would become sinner?

(2) i fear always of one thing Because ultimately I agreed for nikah consent yes (Even that time if I would get freedom I would definitely choose dr ahmad) So I might become questionable in front of Allah. As I had a chance to say NO But I said yes so it was my fault( at that time if I would say no .I could loose my family ,dad) Now my family accepting their fault up to some extent.so now they won't do much pressure on me. So please help me Can I go with dr ahmad? My father said Divorce is bad things.so its my advice don't do it. But Dr ahmad replied Divorce is really bad but not this kind of nikah. He further added Nikah is worst thing among all permissible acts. But forcing n pressurizing for such nikah on adult girl is even not a permissible act. As you were under pressure of loosing your dad Your husband was also aware of all facts but he snatched your rights ayesha. So as per hadith doing such nikah is As it was not happened. You are free to continue your nikah Or You may come to me. You won't be sinner in sha Allah.

Q: If the parents have done everything they could for their children, for example, my father has scarficed a lot for his children, he gave us education. We are 6 sisters and 3 brothes. All my brothers Alhamdulillah are engineers and two elder sisters are married and two are Alhamdulillah doctors.

My question is that one of my sisters, who is a doctor is being forced to marry our cousin who is my father's nephew. Years ago the relation was tied and my sister had no clue about it, she got to know later when it was made official. After her graduation my parents, even my brothers and two elder sisters who are married are forcing her to marry the cousin. All these years she was highly depressed over it and would cry in sajood. Meanwhile our parents and our elder siblings have told us that we should marry whoever our parents want us to because they've sacrificed a lot for us and that our father gave us education in the society where girls aren't supposed to get out and study. And in our society we do not marry out of the cast. So we have no option. We have to marry our cousins. It doesn't matter if they're educated or not.

Basically my question is that are we disobeying our parents or taking their sacrifices as for granted if we aren't willing to marry who they want us to get marry? My sister is really depressed. All these years she'd cry but now when the days have come close she has agreed to marry because she has been pressurised if she doesn't get married to whoever her father wants, it'd hurt her parent's feelings plus she has no choice rather than the cousin cause her age will pass by and none will marry her because as I mentioned above we are not supposed to get married out of our cast according to our society.

Q: My question is regarding my nikkah. When I was 16 years old my parents wanted me to get engaged. We agreed on my cousin and they gave their word. Since I live abroad I didn't have much contact with him. When I went to Pakistan, I lived with him and saw no compatibility. I told my mother that I didn't like him anymore. After a while I started talking with another boy with whom I was interested, we planned on getting married after I had finished my studies. Now last year before my nikkah took place we were supposed to leave for Pakistan, my mother asked me if I still liked my cousin on which I answered no, but I also didn't tell her about my relationship with the other boy. I said that I want to study and not get married so soon. We went to Pakistan and there they wanted to get my nikkah done. I had to tell them the truth that I can not marry my cousin because I like someone else. After much emotional blackmailing I agreed and told her ok, but soon I realised my mistake. My heart still didn't agree. I tried speaking to one of my aunts who assured me that this nikkah won't take place since there are only 2 days left and much preparation to do. I believed her and, I got satisfied and said nothing. Now, one day before going back home they brought the Imaam and planned the nikkah. At that time I begged and I asked my aunt to please stop it but she said it was too late if I don't agree now, my dad can divorce my mother and she can also get a heart attack. Being in that much pressure I signed the nikkah with the intention that I will later break it. This was one of my biggest mistakes but I was left with no choice. My question is, is my nikkah valid? Can my parents ask me to break it? I have no intention to stay with my present husband. My parents are asking for the validity of the nikkah.

Q: I have a question regarding niqaah. A girl was forced, threatened and pressurized by her parents into the Nikah against her will. So she accepted verbally and in writing against her will and now she is not happy with her husband. She refrains her husband from seclusion, touching and specially having intercourse. She says that the marriage is not valid and she won't live with her husband. Now my question is:

1. If they are not having any kind of physical relation, then will the niqaah be valid? After what time period it will be considered as talaaq if they don't have any physical relation intentionally?

2. If the husband forcefully tries to have some physical relation or touches the wife "forcefully", is it permissible? What will be it's effect on the nikaah?

3. In case the marriage and nikaah is valid, is she permited to ask for Khula'? Please do guide me in detail soon.

Q: I would like to know is the nikaah valid if the couples are not willing by heart? Especially the bride? If they just accept the nikaah because of family pressure.