Those situations where Talaaq takes place

Q: My brother in-law audio messaged his wife a divorce. Is this divorce valid?

Q: My husband divorced me through signing onto the divorce papers which is a predesigned template of country law in which it is written that ‘I give my wife three written divorces’ which is then followed by such statements: I__________ divorce my wife________________ I _____ divorce my wife__________ I __________ divorce my wife________ However, the paper that he signed was of mutual understanding divorce but the divorce was not given by my consensus, therefore keeping this in mind when we got the copy of papers we got that changed and the new papers were prepared where there is no statement as ‘ I give three written divorce to my wife’. Moreover, he also said that I have given one divorce to my wife, which is true. Since he stopped talking to me before divorce (despite of my struggles to contacting him, as my rukhsati didn’t take place so we were not living together nor we consummated our marriage), there was no assurance if he had signed the papers or his mother has done it since she was against our marriage the most even though it was an arranged marriage, so my family forced him to call me and say on call and he uttered ‘you are free from my side’ and ‘ you are divorced as papers are being signed’. I want to reconcile with this relation tell me how can I do that, my husband and I had no contact since divorce and he has blocked me from everywhere also I don’t have courage to approach to him myself. Please tell me what are the rulings of Islam in this case how many divorces has taken place three or one since marriage has not been consummated. Even if three divorces has taken place what will be ruling of halala,which I know is haram.

Q: I was going through an emotional state and I mentioned when I get married to my second wife, she is divorced thrice. As I divorced my first wife, I keep on getting these waswasah about divorce all the time. Example if I got a certain girl in my mind should I marry her or not, then I get so much off waswasah in my mind that is she the right one for me I don't want to make the same mistake twice it is as if I am scared to get married again and I'm divorcing girls that come to mind so I don't get married to them because I'm scared I'm really suffering with these waswasahs for months now it really weakening me mentally. Will all these divorces go through? If yes, what will I have to do if I I want to make a second nikaah because I'm desirous of getting married. What will be the way out? I feel I am blocked from all sides to progress in anything even I want to do something I feel so hard to do it as if something is pushing me down each time. I want to stand up. Please help me.

Q: My husband divorced me two times during a routine argument, then he left home. After three months he came with a fatwa that 2 times divorce happened and only single one is left, and then he again left home, and from then till now it is about 3 year he didn't come back and nor did he given a single rupee for me and my children. The question is that what about the relationship between me and my husband? Is it still valid or is it finished? We are still living separately. No contact and no naan nufaqa. Kindly tell me the answer.

Q: This is with regards to talaaq. Me and my wife have been living separate for a few months due to some family issues. For the past three months I have been given mental torture and pressure from both families to issue a talaaq which I have been totally against. This has lead to physical violence on my self (beaten up by family members). I was put inside a room and was told to issue a talaaq from my family which again I refused. I tried to walk out of the room but was dragged back and told not to move. I feared for myself as I knew if I don't say the 3 T's then I would endure serious physical harm to my self. In the end I didn't know what I was saying but had to issue the 3 T's in order for myself to be safe and secure. Since issuing the 3 T's, I had no intention of doing this but I was in no frame of mind in that room. I didn't know what was happening and feared for my own safety. Is this talaaq valid? Please can you help me?

Q: My husband has divorced me many times in breaks of months in private only in fulll words two times and once ke tujhe talaaq pe talaaq. Third time he said ke jaa tujhe teesri talaq. But he didn't have any knowledge at that time that through uttering in such a way, talaaq happens and he had no intentions also. Now he is denying every talaaq and saying that I just gave once talaq and all muftis here in India are taking his side saying that aadmi ki gawai maani jayenge if I don't have any proof and witness. He is ready to take Quran oath and do Tajdeed-e-nikaah with me. What should I do as I am really confused because some are saying that he is still your husband and some are saying that your talaaq is valid and you take khula from him. What is the real Islamic way if the husband gives talaaq and later denies it by lying? If I go with him, will I be committing zina? Please help me. Is my talaaq valid? What should I do?

Q: I got married in 2004 and in the begining my husband gave me 2 talaaqs in extreme anger after that we made ruju. We got three kids Alhumdulillah and now two weeks ago my husband asked me I give you divorce. You want me to give in anger? It was just a question he asked me but he asked like that and in reply I was quite that time. Please tell me where we stand now And I also want to tell you we both don't know anything about talaaq. Before we found out one week ago all the terms our concept was like different about it. Please help us. We are worried.

Q: Last night I was in bed when I was breathing I could hear talaaq. At first I thought it was noting then I did it again again. It was like I was saying the words direct but in a breath and my wife was with me but she was busy reading a book and I did not tell her this. Please help as I have heard until the wife does not hear the words, the divorce is not valid.

Q:

1) When I said things like "if until then this doesn't change, I go and leave you" , really intending to leave then and divorce, and no change took place until that time limit, does a kinaya divorce take place or a sarih? This happened many times. I didn't know that ruling back than.

2) I really left her some weeks ago with a real intended kinaya divorce upon which she asked " are you serious? And I said "yes". The following days I talked to some persons and said things like "I left her, I divorced her, my ex-wife, I dont want her back..." ....while I had thoughts like "you divorced again by that....its over anyway", but didn't care because I really was thinking it's completely over anyway. So I learned in the hanafi school that if you follow a kinaya with a clear sarih then both come into effect. But the contract broke somehow with the kinaya divorce before anyway. So how to understand this? Is following a kinaya with sarih meant that it happens in the same sentence or sitting? Is this all relevant anyway if in question 1) contract broke before.

3) If you say unintentionally words to yourself that pop in mind like "triple talaq", is that a Problem? Like a song comes to your head and you unintentionally utter the words.

4) If in the aqd it was agreed that wife can any time make use of divorcing right "khula"......does that come in effect if wife for example said like:" if until then this doesnt change we separate " and both agree but no mention of khula ? We wish to reconcile with a new aqd. Is this after these scenarios still possible?

Q: I'm in a complicated situation and have been asking scholars for some guidance through my confusion. I was married three years ago in Pakistan, my husband sent me divorce papers while I was visiting my mother in New York because it turns out he was just looking for the green card. However, by USA law he cannot legally divorce me until he has resided in one state for a year. He has to wait another 6 months to file for divorce. My question is, am I Islamically divorced because he sent papers? I just want to be super sure because my mother wants to look for a rishta but I don't want her speaking to another man on my behalf if I am still married. Also there is the question of idaat, have I completed my waiting period because we have not lived together since July 2015 or do I need to wait 3 months after the divorce has been finalized legally through NY state law?