Oaths & Vows

Q: I work in the medical field. A few months ago from extreme pressure of my family they wanted me to quit my job. My mom said I was overweight and heavy and need to exercise. I told them I would exercise but they said it was not enough. They wanted me to quit my job even though I promised I would, they did not believe me. So, I made a mistake and swore on Allah (Ta'ala) that If I did not reach my goal of proper weight I will quit my job. It is now end of march and I have not reached my goal. I know it was wrong to swear and I should not have done that. I apologised to Allah (Ta'ala). But I cannot quit my job due to financial troubles. Can something be done about this? I was told by someone that breaking a promise means 60 days of fasting or feeding the poor? But someone else told me that is only if it was done by accident and not intentionally. I am getting different answers from many people. Please help.

Q: If a woman makes an oath to Allah saying that she will undergo female circumcision and if she breaks her oath she will become a kafir forever. Does she become a kaafir if she has changed her mind and does not want to undergo circumcision?

Q: My question is that because of some compulsion if we have to break our kasam so what do we have to do. On house changing issue I took a kasam that after two months I will leave this house. I took a kasam on Allah Ta'ala and the Quran but now my husband says, if you go then you cannot come back here and he will break this relation. Now tell me what can I do?

Q: My question is that I had asked one mufti that if a woman takes an oath that "if I do this or do not do this I will become a kafir forever"and breaks the oath will she become a kafir. His reply was that ulama have said that she will become a kafir. But you had said that she will not become a kafir. Please reply I am very disturbed.

Q: If a husband out of anger says to his wife because of her not listening to him 'I swear I will not ask you for anything'? Does it mean he can never ask her for anything such as to give him food? If so what if he forgets and does ask her? What is the compensation for that? How can this oath be invalidated?

Q: When performing Nadhr of I'tikaf (for a vow), what is the minimum time period? Does it have to start at Maghrib or can one day be counted from eg. 10 in the morning to the next day at 10?

Q: I took a vow saying Wallahi I will not drink a certain drink, then I was opening the can of drink for my friend and some drink fell on my hand and I forgetting my promise licked the drink off. Do I need to make kaffarah for breaking oath in Allah's name? If one breaks a promise taken in Allah's name I understand they must keep 3 fasts, do they have to be all consecutive?

Q: Is it allowed to break oath/kasam that by Allah I wont smoke in future?

Q: Can I make a vow to fast for 1 week for the pleasure of Allah and in return ask Allah for the recovery of my mother in-law who is currently very sick? She will be going for liver biopsy on Monday morning and I want to fast so that Allah can make it easy for her and make her results negative. An urgent reply will be highly appreciated.