nikaah

Taking a second wife

Q: I am married for seven years and have two kids aged 5 years and one eleven months old daughter. Whenever I seek intercourse from my wife, she declines me nine out of ten times, because she is either busy, she is tired most of the times, she is not well and that she has to take care of the children (these are the reasons according to her) and I am left being frustrated and when this kind of reasons are given I cannot oppose it and ask her forcefully. Sometimes we have intercourse just once in many weeks. I do not know what to do about this situation because it creates lots of frustration sometimes. Please help me with this. Also my wife feels that two children are enough where as I do want another child. She has refused me and have warned me as well to go leave her if I want another child. What I can do is in this situation to convince her?

Khud shaadi ka intizaam karna

Q: Meri umer 29 saal hai aur mere abbu meri shadi nahi karwa rahey hain kio ke meri badi behen ki shadi nahi hui hai. Uski wajah se meri shaadi bhi nahi ki ja rahi hai aur baaqi ghar k kuch afraad rukawat ban rahy hain. Main pichley 17 saal se akela reh raha hun. Ab mujh se bager shadi k rehna mushkil hai. Aesi soorat main Islam kia kehta hai? Aur agar main kisi galat raah per chal padta hun to uska gunaah kis ko hoga? Waazeh rahay ke main pichley 5 saal se shaadi ka zikar kar raha hun.

Consulting one's parents with regards to nikaah

Q: Please advise: I am a 25 year old female and feel that I am ready for marriage. My parents have been looking for a suitable spouse for me. So far I have had boys (who were suggested my family members/family friends) come home to propose but it did not go further because both I and my family felt that the boy and I were not compatible. An old friend (female) recently contacted me through Facebook and said that her cousin (who went to the same school as me -7 years ago) is ready for marriage and would like to contact my parents. I am aware of the fitna of social media and have been very careful about how I use it. I do not post any pictures of myself so I am certain that this is not the reason that her cousin would like to speak to my parents. Would you advise that I give this friend my parents' contact details? Or would it be better to turn down her request and wait for another proposal to be suggested by a family member?

Jannat me jaane ki koshish karna

Q: Mera question nikaah ke baray ma ha. Agr koi larki kisi ko pasand krti ho lakn us larky ki death ho jaye un ka nikah na howa ho abi lakn larki fr b usy he pasand krti ho owr Allah se dua kry k wo us ka nikah jannat ma us larky sy krwa dain to kya ye dua krna jaiz ha? Kya Allah jannat ma us ki ye dua qabool krain gy us ki mrzi sy nikah krwa dain gy agr duniya ma wo Allah ki raza r apny parents ki khushi k liye kse r sy nikah kr b ly apny nafs py control kr k sabar kr k to kya Allah usy jannat ma hmesha ki life ma us ka nikah us sy krwa dain gy jisy wo pasand krti ha?