husband

Marital problems

Q: I am asking this question for my aunt. My husband says that my father passed away when he was young because of my ghuna's. The reason being that he doesn't get along with me. My husband and his family are continuously abrupt and still expect me to do everything for them. My husband has issued me with two talaaqs and threatens me with a third for every difference between us in front of my children and their spouses and my grand children. The reason he does not go through with it is because we are married in community of property and he is afraid to lose the properties that have my name on them. He asks for my consent to sell the properties that have both our names on the deeds. I also have contributed to these properties financially and completed the deals on these houses. He then takes all the cash quietly from the sales and purchases homes for our unmarried daughters without my knowledge. We are living separately at the moment, he with our daughters and I am alone. We also live in different cities. The main reason for this query is that it really hurts me that he says I lost my father due to my ghuna’s. I’ve looked after his mother the best I could but she never appreciated it and told my husband I never did anything for her. Please advise me if his statements are true.

Husband not adhering to the Sunnah

Q:

1. A woman's husband wears ordinary dresses like pant shirts and all not sunnah way of dressing like kurta pyjama, but wife wants him to wear sunnah clothing, how should she advise her husband? Even after she advises him if he doesn't wear it, will she have to show any displeasure towards her husband for the sake of Allah? Or she should continue loving him unconditionally?

2. Similarly in all the cases where husband is not practising the Sunnah or not going for tableegh in the path of Allah but wife wants him to do all these, what should be her stance towards her husband? She wants her husband to do all these because she loves him truly, but if husband is kind of lazy nature and don't listen to her then should she continue loving him or she must show displeasure towards him?

3. Similarly if one's husband is sinning how should a wife advise him? Humbly seeking your precious advise in this regard.

Wife masturbating the husband

Q: My question is that I have been married since 2004. She is often busy with kids and we don't find time to have pleasures with each other. Masturbation is not allowed in Islam but if your wife lets you masturbate with her own hands is it allowed. Secondlly, after having long intervals is it allowed to masturbate with using hands like while taking shower throw water on penis to feel satisfied or relaxed and to avoid wrong doings outside?

Covering the faults of others

Q: I don't know if my heart has truly forgiven my wife for this unforgettable act she committed (adultery). We are still together but I can't seem to forget and I can't seem to get over it. It is really bringing such pain within my heart and it's almost 3 years past. I know I have to be strong but I can't stop thinking about it. Is this because I didn't really forgive or is this just what I must live with. Please advise me how can I get past this and live a normal life with my wife without the memory of this betrayal?

Can the wife give the husband zakaat

Q: I am very concerned regarding zakaat. I got married last year and my husband is not well settled yet. He is completing his education and spending all his money on his family as being the eldest. With my job I support him and I feel happy for that. My question is he has taken a lot of loans from many people for establishing his business. Can I offer my zakaat to him so he can undo his loans and become a little easy, as he cannot save a single coin from his salary and I've to take out Rs 30k annually. I'm only worried about his loans. Other household expense I can share, but for loans can I give him zakaat?

Husband living abroad

Q: I am a married woman 24 years old. My husband is abroad and due to passport and visa issues, I have to wait till I get over there. I pray salah five times. Now for the time being I masturbate secretly without the knowledge of my husband. I am justified. I can't fast as I have health issues.