respect and discipline

Q: I would like to know what is the Islamic ruling of elder members in the family going against a parents rules for her child, out in the open as well as behind the parents back?

Q: I wanted to know that in which case hitting you own child or ustaad hitting a student becomes permissible? Lets say an ustaad has a student and if that student misbehaves or does an action which is total disrespect or doesn't follow ustaads instructions despite that ustaad keeps advising him apprehending and admonishing him (ustaad knows he has won the child's heart already and ustaad knows if he hits the student then the student will take that hiding in a positive way he is a student that wont have an aversion for deen after he gives it to him) he doesn't come right and then the ustaad feels the only solution in his case will be hitting him with justice so now will hitting him be allowed and permissible?

Q: I have a 3 year old son that gets very angry at times when he is scolded or reprimanded for doing something wrong. With the result he tends to get a bit aggressive with people around him. Is there a duaa I can read for him?

Q: I have a 10 year old daughter who obeyed me till now. But trying to behave like her cousins, she now misbehaves with me and reply back when I scold her even for her betterment. Can you please advice me on some duas to change her attitude?

Q: If kids are disobedient and not listening, what dua should I read?

Q: My question is on behalf of a sister. Her son is of 8-9 years of age and is very disrespectful towards his parents older siblings and his aunty. He feels as though he is not listened to and questions everything his parents, older siblings or aunty says to do. He does not listen to instructions however his behaviour at school is extremely good. What should the sister do? How can she stop him from doing this and to become more respectful?

Q: I would like to know how to inculcate good manners in my children. I noticed that if I am strict and firm with them, they start screaming and crying. However, if I am lenient with them, they take advantage of me and simply ignore me. Please provide me with some guidelines on how to discipline them.

Q: I have two children Alhamdulillah. Both are boys age four years and two and a half years. Both are very naughty/aggressive by nature. I am trying to mange them but some times I feel that I am too strict with them so I try to change my behaviour, but when I change myself they became more aggressive and not ready to listen to anything. Sometimes it becomes really awkward and embarrassing when we (me and my wife) are calling them for something but they simply ignoring us and when we try to be little strict they (specially the younger one) starts shouting and crying for hours. Please guide me what Islam says about this situation? Is getting a little strict permissible or not? What is the best way treat a child?