Q: My husband does alot of maintenance work at the masjid. He does not care for his service. But everytime he does something, some of the members says something like it should be done like this not like how you did it. This happens all the time. He is hurting alot. If he stops doing the maintenance, will it be good for him?
Q: I wore hijab two years ago and now I really want to take it off. I have been waiting for few months for that feeling to change and it's not changing. I pray and I read Quran but the environment is not helping me. A lot of people are mistreating me because of it and I feel people treat me through the hijab not for who I am. I have been searching a lot to understand why I must wear it but nothing convinced me.
Q: I am a 32 year old unmarried Muslim girl living with my parents. My mother recently told me that my father wants to adopt a son so that there is someone to look after him when he gets old. She says that they think if I ever get married my husband wont allow me to look after them in their old age.
This comment really hurt me because I try very hard to be a good and dutifull daughter and I do my best to help them with their work as much as possible. I have been crying ever since I heard this and I cant stop crying - I cant help the fact that I am not a boy and my father would have preferred a son.
My question is, will there be any reckoning in the hereafter for my parents making such comments? I know that Islam emphasises the importance of parents but what does it say about how parents should act towards their children, even if they are daughters? Will Allah ever question them for saying such things?
Q: Mai apne husband se bohot pyar karti hoon... mere husband mujhse zyadaa khubsurat hai. mere mu pe log jab ye kehte hai ke mai khubsurat nahi hoon. mere chehre ka rang gora hai bas isiliye mere shadi huyi hai. mere face shape achchi nahi. mere sasural wale kabhi kabhi kehte hai ke najane mujhme aisi kya dekhli mere husband ne jo mujhe shadi karli. kabhi kabhi mere husband bhi kehte hai ke mere face shape achche nahi hai... mujhe bohot dukh hoti hai. jee chaahti hai k mar jaoon. shadi ke pehle pehle samay wo mere chehre se pyar karte the aur mai thodi acchi bhi dikhti thi. lekin ab sab log mujhe aise kehhte hai aur mai sach mai hi kharab hote ja rahi hoon. mai boht dukhi rehti hoon. koi mujhe mere husband ki kabil nahi samajhte hai. koi mere picheto koi mere mu pe ye keh dete hai ke mai khubsurat nahi hoon. mai apne shohar ki kabil banna chaahti hoon har taraf se.
Q: I am a 23 years old Muslimah. I want to build up an islamic personality so that people would be attracted to Islam and I will be the zariya of their hidaayat. I try to be good with people but people try to dominate me and I feel that they respect me less. It hurts my self respect but I try to be nice with them. I am in such a dilemma. Is it my shy and soft nature? Am I doing anything wrong? I've read that one of Luqman (Alayhis Salaam's) advices was be not so harsh as well as be not so soft that people can eat you.
Q: Is it right for in-laws to pass remarks and hint at the daughter in-law calling her a Satan, jaahill and judging her for 26 years?
Q: I am a Muslim guy in college. I have a problem that is making me very depressed. Whenever I decide to do something I always think; a.) "what would others think about this?" plus I b.) fear that they would discriminate and think something negative in their mind about it c.) hoped that they would like and approve it. This is really affecting my daily life and studies, this is so strong that even when I'm praying salah alone these is always what's in my mind. So my questions are:
1.) is this counted as Riyya? Since my niyyah for studying in college is for the sake of Allah (which ulamas say is now a form of worship). When I go to school, do reporting, studying, taking quizes and exams etc. these thoughts pops into my mind that I lose concentration, focus and become very anxious to what their thought or reaction is.
2.) How can I remove this? Before in highschool I always think about "what would Allah think?" but now these thoughts are the top concerns in my mind instead of Allah These are making me very depressed. I can't study well and it's really affecting my grades plus my parents are paying for my education and are getting old. I want to finish so that I can provide and take care of them but these thoughts are hindering my progress.
Q: I have questions about the Sahaba.
1) Hazrat Abu Bakr has the highest status, followed by Hazrat Umar ibn Khattab. Who has the third position? Hazrat Usmaan or Hazrat Ali?
2)After the Khulafa-e-Rashideen, are the remaining six Ashra Mubashra the highest in status compared to the rest of Sahaba?
3) Some people, Nauzubillah, accuse Hazrat Usman bin Affaan of avoiding battles such as the Battle of Uhud, and accuse him of being a coward. Can you explain this matter please?
Q: Mai khwaab dekha ke mere mu k sare dath kharb hoge wo sab gir reh hai mai bht roi.
Q: Ammi abbu ko jala hua dekha maine dekha kuch log hme ghr se niklne k liye mere ghr pe dhuwa (smoke) kr rhe the mai unko rok rha tha ammi abbu andr soye hue the unko isbt ka ilm nhi tha ki bahr kya ho rha h fir kuch logo ne mujhpe pani daala mai tb b nhi hata waha se achank yad aya ki ammi abbu andr h ja k dekha to dono jale hue the ammi zyada jali thi abbu km jale the mai ammi ko dekhne gya itne mehi khwab tut gya. Mai bahut fikr me hu mehrbani kr k jldi se is khwab ki tabeer bate.