Q: I get so many negative thoughts in my mind about Allah. When I see how my husband is attracted towards other girls and some girls in public also getting attracted towards him, I feel it's not his fault and that is how Allah has created men. I feel hurt when he gets attracted towards other girls and acting weirdly with them. I know Allah has created men like this. Even if I am the best wife towards him he will still be attracted towards others and he has the right to marry another woman. Even if we have the best relationship it is not a bad thing if he marries another. Allah has given men this right and didn't care about how we will feel.
How cruel is this that in this world we women have to suffer this much for men's behavior and we are reading in Quran and hadith that our reward in jannah is less than men. They are going to have many other women and we will not feel bad about this. Allah has made women depended on these creatures which are called "men". I can logically convince my mind this is what Allah's hiqmah is. He is the all knower and He doesn't oppress anyone but my love for Allah diminishes. I cannot force myself to love Allah. So my prayers are empty.
I feel like it's inhuman to a woman, allowing men to have physical relation with their slave girls, having more than one wife and after all these hardships we will get less than men in jannah. I don't want to loose my iman and I don't know if these things are making me kafir or not. I just have to speak my heart out and I don't want to loose iman. This is why I am writing to you.
A: The belief that you will get less than men in Jannah is false. In all matters related to thawaab and aakhirat, men and women are identical. As far as the thought of the second wife and slave girl etc., then as for the slave girl it does not relate to you presently. So don't engage your mind in things that don't exist. Though they have a shar`ee status but internationally it does not exist today. Allowing your mind to run along these types of thoughts is being a victim of stray thoughts. And the question of the man being able to take a second wife then this is the right of the husband. When it is his right then who are you to stop this right. Like it is your right to stay within your home and not expose yourself in front of ghayr mahram men. If anyone stops you then he is encroaching on your rights. You will not say that this is inhuman.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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