Waleemah before sexual relations

Q:

1. Is it mandatory to have sex before walima? Many say walima is not halaal and first nights usually are not like what we see in movies as many factors are dependent (stress, fear, etc). Also should penis completely go into vagina and man should ejaculate or only tip is okay during first night.

2. Should a man ejaculate inside vagina whenever he has sex with his wife. During initial days of marriage couples usually are in fear and everything is
new.

3. Can couples use pullout method (before ejaculation remove penis from vagina) if not planning for pregnancy?

A: 

1. The best is to have relations, but if for some reason there was no relations you will still literally call it a waleemah.

2 - 3. It depends on the wife.


And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

 

Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)