Q: I am suffering with terrible negative thoughts - all my life I have struggled with learning and understanding and I’m not good at anything. I have only realized how stupid I am now. I am a mother of 3 kids but now, because of my negative thoughts, I have been put on medication which is not helping. Everything I am saying is true because I am absolutely useless. I don’t see the point of living. I am clueless and so are my kids. I feel so so low. Please advise.
A: A believer should never lose hope. Losing hope is the way of a kaafir. A believer should always turn to Allah Ta’ala and beg Allah Ta’ala to bless him with His special grace and divine guidance. To acquire the special grace of Allah Ta’ala one should lead his / her life in conformity to the commands of Shariah and refrain from areas of doubt and sin. Ensure that you perform your five daily salaah on their prescribed times and observe strict pardah with all non mahrams.
Apart from this, commence with the following daily program at home with your family:
(1) Ta`leem of Fazaa'il-e-A`maal, Fazaa'il-e-Sadaqaat, Bahishti Zewar and Seeratul Mustafa.
(2) Recitation of a portion of the Qur'aan Shareef and some zikr.
(3) Du`aa at the end of each session.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
لَا تَيْأَسُوا مِنْ رَوْحِ اللَّهِ إِنَّهُ لَا يَيْأَسُ مِنْ رَوْحِ اللَّهِ إِلَّا الْقَوْمُ الْكَافِرُونَ (سورة يوسف: 87)
مَنْ عَمِلَ صَالِحًا مِنْ ذَكَرٍ أَوْ أُنْثَى وَهُوَ مُؤْمِنٌ فَلَنُحْيِيَنَّهُ حَيَاةً طَيِّبَةً (سورة النحل: 97)
عن أبي هريرة أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: إذا صلت المرأة خمسها وصامت شهرها وحصنت فرجها وأطاعت بعلها دخلت من أي أبواب الجنة شاءت (المعجم الأوسط، الرقم: 4598)
عن ابن عمر قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: إن هذه القلوب تصدأ كما يصدأ الحديد إذا أصابه الماء قيل يا رسول الله وما جلاؤها قال: كثرة ذكر الموت وتلاوة القرآن (شعب الإيمان للبيهقي، الرقم: ١٨٥٩)
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