Q: In sha Allah I'll be getting married to a girl I love 2 days from now. We did not date or hangout because we knew it was haraam. We got our families in touch and they have agreed to marry us. However my mother decided that I am not ready to bring her home because I am not that financially strong. (I live in Pakistan, I make 2000 USD a month, I am 23, I am quite well off compared to everyone my age and a huge percentage of adults).
They also said that we can't bring the girl home unless I pay 25000 USD for a grand event. The standard 3 day wedding in our country.
I really need your guidance as to what I should do. I love this girl and I want to hang out with her. My mother says that I can't even hang out with her after nikkah. And I should wait one year to bring her home and then meet her. This all sounds and feels so stupid and painful. My mother has no real logical reason to do this. Please tell me what to do? I'm already working so hard and did my best to always stay halaal.
A: Once she is in your nikaah then her right is that you take care of her. This is her compulsory right after marriage. You cannot deprive her of her compulsory right. The grand event that you talk about has absolutely no basis in the shariah.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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