Q: I am married. We are financially not fantastic with both of us working with 3 kids. We live with my parents. We bought an investment and sold it off but covid came and we could not repurchase a home. Now things are expensive, it's hard to get by even on two incomes. Family and friends all around me seem to be financially killing it, bought homes, have good jobs, can afford to send kids to good schools.
I feel resentment for ever getting married, listening to my parents and having kids. I feel anger towards my husband for not being financially settled and mapping out and striving for a better financially secure future. How can I get rid of these thoughts and feelings. I try being grateful and just working hard and praying but around me someone or another will mention their recent good job or house purchase or financial gains and I will go back to the bad thoughts.
A: It is not at all a wise thing to pay attention to any person's wealth or comforts. Many people lost their comfort, many times their wealth and health as well as happiness on account of this. The correct and positive approach is to think about the good that you are enjoying and reflect about those who are less privileged than yourself. Conduct daily taleem at home, especially of Fazaa'il-e-Sadaqaat.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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