drug addict

Q: I am married with my wife for almost 15 years and we have 3 children together. We have had a lot of problems before and I except the fact that most of the time I was to be blamed for the problems, drugs was 1 of the biggest problems in our marriage.

Recently I was set up by some cops and got locked up. In that time my wife got hold of my phone and listened to some voice notes where A and I was chatting. The chatting all started when I get into bed then my wife will turn her back to me and go sleep. Thats how it came that I was chatting to another female. When I came home after I was locked up then I was put out of the house becoz of the voice notes and me being locked up. I moved out but that wasn't enough for her. Becoz its my moms house and I'm my mothers only child.

After I slept in my car for a few nights already I got a msg from her saying that she dont know how to face me but shes moving out. I got at home with in about 30 mins and all her and the kids stuff was packed in boxes already she was just waiting for a truck to cum and load her stuff. I went back to work while she was still at home after work when I got home, the place was empty. She just left without saying anything; where shes going or whats going to happen. Becoz her mother stays in a different area now, shes telling me she got the kids into schools close to her mom which means to me that she's not intending to come back home and leave me for good.

Firstly, is she allowed to leave the house that we were living in without my permission irrespective the issues?

Secondly, can her mother just accept her like that just by listening to her side of the story and not mine? Uptill this very moment, not 1 of her family members contacted me in any way to find out what my side of the story is.

Thirdly, shes now sleeping almost a week out of the house. What can be done about this situation?

Q: My mother is a drug addict and has been one since I was 15 and now I am 28. I am a married woman and my husband and I have tried to help her by letting her stay by us a few times but she stole money twice and recently she came to live by us and was fine for a while. She even started hifz but then left again to live by another man and now she wants to come back to live here because the man beats her up. My husband just keeps quiet but I know deep down he is not happy with it. She is crying on the phone alot but I told her my husband can't pick her up so late in the night we live far. She said that she will see where she is going to sleep for the night. I am starting to buy her monthly groceries from my allowance but now she wants to come and live back here. What should I do, I am totally lost.

Q: I regret to inform you that my younger brother is a drug addict from many years. His wife has also left him because of this. He has a 14 year old daughter and my mother is taking care of him. We have tried many times to treat him for drug addiction but he again starts taking drugs. He says that he cannot even move without drugs. My mother is suffering very much seeing his condition. She cannot see him dying in front of her eyes. She has to give him money for drugs and she feels that we should also give him money for drugs otherwise he would die. My question is, can I give him money for drugs or is it a sin? Please answer me as I am in a dilemma.

Q: Want to ask if a man is really really angry and he is a drug addict. In bad anger he doesn't know what he is doing. Then he say 2 talak to woman and woman didn't hear it. Some family member heard it, then what? Man is fully on heroin for the last 20 years and he said it in anger. It was bad anger. After we mention it to him that he said that, he said that he doesn't know. Is it acceptable or not? 

Q: I am a Muslim living in a non Muslim country. Our neighbour is a non Muslim lady drug addict. I am always afraid of some kind of harm from her as she is not in her senses most of the time. Am I still obligated to look after my neighbour and offer her food etc on a daily basis?