Customary practices

Q: Could you please explain the permissibility/impermissibility of khatams after death. E.g if one goes to the house of someone who passed away, there are often Qur'ans there, is it ok to read to contribute to the khatam? If someone passes away in your home, can you provide Qur'ans for visitors to read with the aim of finishing maximum khatams? Is it permissible to tell people to read certain paras in there own time with the aim of finishing a khatam? If ones goes to the home of a deceased and meals are provided, is it permissible to eat? Is it permissible to send food to the home of the deceased for the people of the home and visitors?

Q: Is it correct to gather on the fortieth day after the demise of a deceased in order to recite the Quraan Majeed, etc. and convey the reward to him?

Q: Is it permissible to place flowers on graves?

Q: Is it permissible in Islam to construct tombs over graves. Similarly is it permissible to place sheets over graves?

Q: What is the Shar'ee law of planting flowers or planting trees on graves?

Q: Is it a sunnah to pour water over the graves when visiting or is it something of a tradition. Also, if it is sunnah, should it be done everytime or would it be better to do it seldomly since the graveyards are looked after with public money.

Q: Is it permissible for the local people to partake of meals prepared at a funeral house?