Q: My question is regarding a sister: Her mother criticizes everywhere she goes because of her purdah and maintaining islam and sometimes the sister gets angry at her and argues. It makes her very regretful but how should she control? Besides her parents curse her a lot, would there be effect of the curses and how can she lift off?
Q: I am 18 years old and studying in 12th grade. I am growing a beard but my beard looks odd. I used gel to make it look straight but nothing happened. People everyday say me to neaten my beard and criticize me. Well all of these made me lose confidence. I dont want to meet people because they will criticize me. Can I just neaten my beard and will let it grow step by step?
Q: Mai apne husband se bohot pyar karti hoon... mere husband mujhse zyadaa khubsurat hai. mere mu pe log jab ye kehte hai ke mai khubsurat nahi hoon. mere chehre ka rang gora hai bas isiliye mere shadi huyi hai. mere face shape achchi nahi. mere sasural wale kabhi kabhi kehte hai ke najane mujhme aisi kya dekhli mere husband ne jo mujhe shadi karli. kabhi kabhi mere husband bhi kehte hai ke mere face shape achche nahi hai... mujhe bohot dukh hoti hai. jee chaahti hai k mar jaoon. shadi ke pehle pehle samay wo mere chehre se pyar karte the aur mai thodi acchi bhi dikhti thi. lekin ab sab log mujhe aise kehhte hai aur mai sach mai hi kharab hote ja rahi hoon. mai boht dukhi rehti hoon. koi mujhe mere husband ki kabil nahi samajhte hai. koi mere picheto koi mere mu pe ye keh dete hai ke mai khubsurat nahi hoon. mai apne shohar ki kabil banna chaahti hoon har taraf se.
Q: So, one of my cousins accuses me of talking negative about her behind her back at the time we were good, I'm not that close to my cousins who live locally near me although I want to be, so I was close with this one cousin she accused me of talking negative about her behind her back and she didn't give me time to explain and ignored me, I never once talked negative about her behind her back, before she ignored me she finished the chat saying she wants to cut me out of her life forever, months later my parents tried to get her and me to start talking again , she then told me that someone said that I had been backstabbing her, i was shocked since I never talk to anyone in my family (meaning cousins) and I wouldn't talk about her behind her back anyway , I then asked her what did I "supposedly say about you" as in what did this person say to you that I apparently had said , I also asked her who said this about me, she said No I can't tell you because I'm the Quran it says that breaking a promise whether it is bad or good is haram , I then said why would you tell me that someone said that I said something negative about you behind my back yet you won't tell me what they said or who they are ? Is it a bigger sin to cover up for another persons sin and not tell the victim what has been said? How am I meant to get self justice for myself. Till now my cousins still ignore and now have been arguing with my brother "exposing sins"
Q: Would it be better not to act upon the sunnah if you have yaqeen that acting upon this sunnah will lead to backbiting by people who witness you acting upon it due to their ignorance?
Q: There is one problem with me. Wherever I am going, people are talking loudly with one another. Koi muzhe dekhkar meri taraf peeth kar deta hai. Koi akad kar khade ho jata hai. Muze aisa lagta hai ki mai logo se dabaya ja raha hu. Is hi ke vajah se mera namaaz me dil nai lagta. Do mahino se college nahi gaya hu. I have lost my self confidence, contentment and boldness. Whenever I am seing that there are people I am going to run away from there. I am unable to talk with people even with my parents. It is very dark problem. I am totolly unable to fulfill the right of Allah as well as people. Please help me. I will be very thankul of you. I am performing nafl salah daily but I dont understand what to ask to Allah. I am praying and asking to open my chest.
Q: I'm a 19 year old from Pakistan. Two years ago I started to wear the hijab and the burqa. My mother passed away when I was 9 and so I look up to my aunt for all the girly stuff. Everyone admired me when I started wearing the head cover and the burqa except my aunt. According to her I'm overdoing it; she gave me her example that she wears the hijab and burqa when shes driving alone, but she doesn't wear it when she is out with her husband ( her husband does not like hijab at all) she does not even wear the head cover in public gatherings or parties where the place is filled with non-mahrams. According to her, this is neutral and the way it is supposed to be. I wear hijab anywhere I go and do not take it off no matter what and she knows that too. She claims that I wear hijab just for looking cool. Wallahi I wear hijab for the sake of Allah and to please my Lord. And then she asks me to wear hijab in some other ' appealing style ' which requires me to raise the backside of my head and to reveal my forehead. My aunt used to wear burqa and hijab when she used to work. I also want to practise the niqab because I don't like the way how men eat up a woman by their stares and they do not spare a woman whose in hijab and burqa. But she says that I'm not religious enough to practise it. My other aunty calls me a 'laloo kheti' ( a term used in urdu to define a person who belongs from the lower class). I am really heart broken. My confidence is shaken. Why do people say stuff to me like that. I wear hijab the way it is supposed to be. It covers the bossom. And it covers my forehead as well. Please help me. And she also claims that I don't want you two sisters to have such an appalling difference (my sister who is 13 doesn't cover her head and hardly carries a duppatta and prefers to untie her hair every time) my aunt likes the way how my sister carries herself and she says that I look outdated in front of her and that shouldn't be the way. Please help me sir.
Q: I would like to know is not loving yourself haraam or a sin? I don't like myself, in fact I hate myself. I'm soo tired of having this ugly body and looks. I don't love myself at all and I never look after myself. e.g I don't care if i cut my hand with knife, I dont care if I eat too much and get fat, I don't care if something harms me. I don't care if Ii get serious illness or cancer etc. Because people around me have hurt me so much with their words and behaviour which makes me feel like this ungrateful and hating myself. I'm tired of feeling ugly, having no confidence and selfesteem. I'm tired of hearing people making negative comments and thoughts about how I look. I'm tired of crying and living lonely. I think Allah also hates me, thats why he never helps me or listen to my duas. I want to be happy at least when I die. In my grave and in jannah which is why I am asking is it gunaah to hate yourself and how you look? How can I overcome this hate feeling for myself?