contraceptives

Q: Three years ago after giving birth, my auntie had her operation done to avoid conceiving any more children. This was because she was facing alot of marriage problems and had this done without notifying her husband. The reason being was that she was worried that it might have a reverse affect on her marriage or her husband wouldn't support her decision. Its been 3 years now and her husband is still unaware of this.

Now mmy auntie has alot of remorse and regret for her action. She feels she is deceiving her husband who really wants another child. She is unable to tell her husband about this act as she fears it might ruin her marriage or she will lose her husband's trust. My auntie is facing a dilemma and doesnt know what to do.

She has cried in front of Allah and asked Allah's for forgiveness many times considering this act of hers to be wrong.

Apart from this alhumdulilah she is living a happy married life. Both her and her husband want to have another child preferably a son as they have 2 daughters. My auntie also thinks she will be able to concieve and she has seen many dreams where either her mom (deceased) is giving her a new born baby or she has had one herself. She has also spoken to the doctors to ask her if anything can be reversed however they have said no.

Could you please help my auntie out of this situation. What should she do to remove this guilt from her life? Is there anything that she can pray to have another child despite the operation.?

Q: Is it permissible for women to take contraceptive pills at all?

Q: I am a first time mum and my baby is almost 3 months. I feel that I might be pregnant due to not getting my menses on time. Is it permissible for me to take a pill? I feel my child is still too small and I dont want her right of being breastsfed not be fulfilled to her stipulated age. However I just feel I could be pregnant and it is not for certain.

Q: Is the use of condom permissible for intercourse between husband and wife to prevent pregnancy in order to have enough time for the existing kids instead of having more children for their better training in accordance with Shareyeh?

Q: I wanted to enquire if it is permissible for me to use the coil or any other contraceptives. The reason being is that I got married 8 months ago and ever since I have been facing alot of problems at the hands of my mother in law. Problems were increasing day by day which included abuse, emotional harassment and insult. My husband wasn't able to do much either and it all resulted in big arguments with my husband too.

Now its been 2 months since I'm at my parents house and the problems just increased and went to such an extent where my marriage was on the verge of ending. Im trying to makeup with my in-laws with the help of my father in law, however I dont think I can have children after all these issues. I would like to see if my husband has realised his mistakes and actually changed in the long run before I plan to have children. My husband isnt willing to understand this point of mine but I think I cant risk my life or my childs life as if things remain the same I will have to seek khula which I hope doesn't happen.

Thus would it be permissible for me to have the coil inserted or use any other methods of contraceptive without my husband's consent and it being in his knowledge. I hope this isnt classed as me decieving my husband.

Q: Is it permissible to use contraceptive medications to delay having children because the couple is studying and working in a tough field (e.g. medicine)?

Q: Under the following circumstances, is it ja'iz for me to use condoms to avoid pregnancy? For the past several years, my wife has been bedridden due to an incurable disease. About a year ago, I did a second marriage so that my second wife could take care of the house and myself. She is about 42 years old while I am 51 years of age. Recently, my second wife was diagnosed with diabetes. About a month ago, she underwent a minor surgery that required general anesthesia to be given to her. The surgery had to be delayed twice as her sugar level was not coming down and anesthesia could not be given. Finally, the doctors had to use some other method rather than anesthesia to do the surgery. I have been suffering from osteoporosis. In addition, over the past couple of years, have been losing weight. Doctors haven’t been able to diagnose the reason of weight loss and investigations are going on. Because of my and my second wife’s health issues I use condoms to avoid her becoming pregnant against her will. She wants to have at least one child.

Q: If a woman was using the patch as means of contraception for a whole year and didn't realize her ghusl isn't completed because the patch is impermeable to water:

1. Does she have to perform qadha of all her salaah and fardh saum?

2. Is her recitation of Qur-aan and khatams accepted?

Q: Can we use IUD (intra uterain device) for birth control. Is it permissible?

Q: I want to know about azal in Islam as my husband don't want to have children from marriage up till now, which is 8 years already. He don't want children  for the next 5-6 years and is insisting that I take family planning medicine but I dont want to take it because it is affecting my body badly and I get sick very fast from them. What is the right of the wife in this situation? Should I live with him or separate?