scarf

Is it necessary to change clean bed sheets and scarves after haidh?

Q: I have heard that after the haidh is completed, a person may no longer sleep on the same bedsheets, even though the sheets are not messed. The sheets must be changed before making ghusl or if ghusl is taken and the sheets have not been changed, one may not sleep on the bed unless the sheet is removed. Also further this was applied to any scarves or burkas that one may have worn during the haidh for even a short period. Is this correct?

Difficulty in wearing abaaya and scarf

Q: I am trying to wear abaaya and scarf. My nafs are troubling me a lot and it is making it difficult. Also my husband is modern so I also have thoughts like I'm not dresses smart enough etc. And nowadays females dress up a lot and also I do notice my husbands eyes do wander and also he does dress up so I feel like his dressed up and I'm not. What advice can you give me to make it easier for me?

Another question is that If one is trying to wear abaya and scarf and I look at the clothing in a mall which are not Shar'ia compliant and feel in there heart that those clothes are so smart and maybe that wearing abaya and scarf is hard but doesn't say it out loud rather they pulled a face that could have been despondent or could have not been is that kufar? Or if they sigh out of difficulty of wearing abaya and scarf, is that kufar?