polygamy

Q: I am a 29 years old, unmarried, looking for a partner. I am struggling to find someone compatible. However today I was driving home at night and saw an ex-boyfriend of mine who is now married walking to mosque with his son. I offered him a ride to mosque and we ended up talking for some time. He asked why I broke up with him and admitted that he still cared for me. I made a joke out of it. Later on I asked him if he could find me a husband, he said he could not but he asked how I felt about being a second wife. My reply was no because I feel I am too jealous. However, I remember watching one of sister aaminas videos where she said that polygamy is actually a gift to the women. I was wondering if you could please explain this to me as I feel if I understood it better I might be more open to it.

Q:

1. Can a husband kiss his wife on lips, hand, cheek and forehead in front of his other wives?

Can all the 4 wives stay together in one house in 4 different rooms each?

Can the 4 wives offer nafl salaah behind her husband in jamaat? They're interested in praying long rakaats, that's why.

Should a person not consider adopting polygamy because it is frowned upon by his countrymen, relatives and parents?

Is a person allowed to marry more than one wife and upto 4 because he wants to have more children (wants children so that he can honor sahaba by giving them their names and make them great ulema of deoband maslak so that they can bring inqilaab in our society) and has more desire for intercourse while his wife is impure, and lastly so that he can change the life of his 4 wives with his piety and make them a strong adherent of sunnat e rasool (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam)?

What if parents and wife don't agree for polygamy even after stating sharee reasons? What should one do? Keep quite and listen to them or make them agree to this with hikmat?