equality

Equality between one's children

Q: There are 4 sons, youngest son lives with parents, father is alive and decides to give youngest son 50% of the house share and 50% remaining to the other 3 sons. The youngest son has also purchased another house, but is living in the current one.

The other sons are not happy as they say that it was unfair for our dad to give more to the youngest, on the basis that he lives with him and in tradition the elder brothers should give youngest most.

The brother's refused the 50% share as they wanted full share, not half. Is there any sin on the father because he decided he wanted to choose who he likes to give?

Property distribution during one's lifetime

Q: We are 10 siblings (5 brothers and 5 sisters). Our parents are both living alhamdulillah. One younger brother and two sisters are still unmarried. Our elder two brothers are already living apart and now the situation has arisen that we want to divide the property among all and let the younger brother and sisters get their share so that thy can construct something to live in... Kindly inform us how much share each brother and sister will get and our parents also... The property is worth around 1 crore rs.

Awlaad ke darmiyaan hadya dene me baraabari karna

Q: Kia parents apni marzi se apni jayedad jitni chahen kisi aulad yani beton k naam karden? Kia parents jayedad se aulad ko aaq kar sakten hn? Kia parents ki jayedad zewar chizon waghera pa betion se zayada betay k hawalay se bahu ka haq hota h? Log betion k naam jayedad is liye nahi lagatay k ghero ko jani h or betonko zayada detay hn k apnay pas hi rehni h hala k wo bhi to bahu k hisay ma hi ana hota h wo bhi to gher hoti h is tarhan bahun ko betion ki nisbat zayda milta h or isi ghar ki jo betian hoti hn un ko nahi milta parents k bnaye huay maakan ma to bahu malkin ban k rehti hn jab k beti mahamn ban k aksar aesa ho ta h k beti ko susral se bhi kuch nahi milta or parents se bhi is tarhan beti ka koi ghar nahi hota beton ko to ghar or dukan waghera hisay ma miltay hn or beti ko jahez da k bs hisa shumar kar lia jata h halan k sari zindagi betian khidmat karti hn akhir ma sab beton or bahu ko mil jata h kia ye sahi h? Asal apnay baray ma pochna chati hun pta nahi ma sahi sochti hun k nahiham 6 sister or 4 brother hn meray maa baap ne bari mahnat apnay dil o jan or khahishat ko mar k sari zindagi hame bohat acha pala h hamary liye itna bnaya h k un k janay k bad ham aesh ki zidagi guzari rahay abu ne kuch makaan or fectary or dukan wghera banai ji se kiraya ata h or aik un married bhia kamata h ab wo sarizimadari uthaye huay h hn betion ki shadi bhi bohata achay se ki h acha jzhez diya h shadi k bad bhi wo aksae ati rehti hn un pa or uk bacho or husband ki bohat khidamt or kharch kartay hn aik behan shadi k bad bui idar hi rehti h us ka sara taqreban sara kharch uthaya h kapron wghera k ilawa kiu k us ka husband use kharch poora nahi deta or ab aik bhai ki shadi ki h wo bhi nahi kamata lakin us ka or us ki biwi bachi ka sara kharch uthay h kabhi kabhi ami kehti hn k jo shadishuda beti ghar ma reh rahi h use apna kharcha uthana chahiy k ab hara farz nahi to ma kehti hun k married bhai ka bhi to kharch uthaya h wo bhi hamari zimadari nahi h us ka farz h apni biwi bachi ka kharch uthaye to married beti ka kiu nahi uthana us ka bhi ap ki kami hui jayedad pa haq h jesay married bhai ka h ami kehti hn nahi bahu hamari zimadri h or beti un ki to muja acha nahi lagta k ye k bat hui waliden ki itni jayedad pa bahu to aesh kary or beti ka koi haq nahi ma manti hun parents ne bohat zayada ki h beti ka jahez bhi deia h shadi k bad bhi bohat kia h magar sari zidagi bet ne khidamt ki h bahu ne to nahi beti ko susral waly bhi kuch na de or parents se bhi na milay kia ye soch sahi h ? Meray parents ne sari zidagi mahnat se or kanjoosion se zidagi guzari or itna sab bnaya hamray maa baap ne or ham behn bhaio ne tarikay se kharch kia behno ki to shadi ho gai jo hn wo bhi soch k karaty hn or jo bahu ai h usne ne dil khol k aesh ki phir mera dil jalta raha or hamara makan girnay wala h ham sari zidagi naye ghar ka itizar kartay rahay ab jab banny laga h to abu hi is dunai ma nahi h amu ku ymar bhi kaafi ho gai h behno ki to shadi ho gai h bs ma aik hun meri bhi Allh karay ho jaye to ma sochti hun ab ye neya makan to bahun k hisay ma ana h unho ka haq hona h hamar to koi haq nahi ho ga jab k ye hamray parents ki mahnat ki kamai ka h or hamara hi haq nahi ho or udhr susral waly bhi koi haq nahi detay ye sab dekh k mera bohat dil jalta h laki ma kia karu ma khud ko smjhati hun aesa na sochun ap hi btaye ma kesy khud ko smjhaon?Allah ap ko jazzaye Khair Ata farmaye.

Equality in marriage

Q:

1. Is there equality (in marriage) between a Surti male that resides in South Africa and a Surti female that resides in Hijaz? 

2. Is there equality (in marriage) between a Surti male that resides in South Africa and a Surti female that resides in Najd?

3. Is there equality in lineage between a Surti male and a Sindhi female?

Showing equal love and attention to one's children

Q: I want to know that if a child was expected to do certain things (provide,work etc) for the family by a certain age even when having other responsibilities isn't it only fair to expect all the other children, when they reach that age to be expected to do the same (especially since they have lesser responsibility than the first child did) as in Islam all the children should be treated equally, so just like they will have give driving lessons to the others as they did for the first child the same way the other children should be expected to do the same chores and work for the family the way the first child did.

Taking a certain daughter for hajj

Q: I want to ask about a property issue. What is the haqq of a girl child in Islam? How much should a father alot for his children if he has three children? The father converted to Islam just now only and does not believe in this, how to explain to him about this? And also this year the father is taking his elder daughter for hajj as her husband is an Ismaili and is not ready to give her money for hajj. Does the father have to give his younger daughter money for hajj?

Getting married without the permission of one's father

Q: If I have married someone without my father's permission, is it valid? There were people who were present during the marriage but I don't know them. Hanafi mazhab allows it but in Tirmidhi, its against this type of marriage. Why is it? What should I do now if I got married like this without knowing. Should I get married with him again with my father's permission?

Baccho ke darmiyaan baraabari ke saath sulook karna

Q: Mera sowaal ha agar ma baap ki ziyada bache hon tu onko sub bacho ke sath aik jasa barabar salook rakhna chah yan nahi? Quran aur ahadees iske bare kia kahtain han? Har waqat ma waldain ke hi haqook perta hon. Mara baap nahait hi na insaaf bnda ha. Kabi bi muje apne baap se shufqat nahi mili. Allah se je hi gila rahta hai kia wo na insaaf ko itni chot data ha k wo jo mari karle. Please ap mujko quran aur ahadees ki roshni ma btain q k mare dill me ab bohat saht nafrat onke liye. Bohat ziya dill tora ha onone mara.