speaking to non-mahrams

Q: From the first day of my college I started talking to a girl in my class. We met everyday and talked about many things. We also chatted on the phone. Days passed and she opened up about her personal life. Her parents got divorced when she was in 4th grade. After 2 years her mother passed away. She's the only child of her parents. After that she was adopted by her maternal uncle and since then she's living with him and his family. We discussed about religion also and she, being a christian, I told her about Islam. College closed for 10 days for holidays. After holidays, classes started again and I started ignoring her. Whenever I see her, I try to run from her. I don't even look at her. But today, while I was sitting in the corner of the class, she came up to me and said: "Why are you ignoring me? Did you forget about me?" and she went away. I felt that she was hurt. What should I do? I try my best not to get emotionally attached to someone because in the past I was hurt by getting attached to someone. As a point of sympathy... I feel that I must talk to her.Please suggest some remedy!

Q: I have this problem for long time. It first started with a small doubt and after that it felt like if I do anything, bad or a sin, it's shirk because that means that I am giving more importance to it than Allah. I felt like talking to girls is forbidden so if I talk to girls it's shirk. So if I talk to girls then I am giving more importance to talk to girls than to Allah. So then I stopped talking. For a few days I ignore this thought and talked to girls, then I felt like I am committing shirk. One part of me was like it's not really shirk, if  I make it as shirk allah will forgive and u can do that as a normal sin. After some time its gone, then that thought comes that whatever I do when I watch a movie or whenever I talk to my friend. After a while those thoughts disappear. I ignore those thoughts and live my life as normal Muslims and now those kinds of thoughts strted coming even stronger. Whatever I do, those kind of thoughts are coming that if its shirk, I'll stop doing it. Is doing this confusion and this mindset shirk or not? Because I feel like even if it is not shirk by doing this mean I am ok with this even it's shirk but am not ok .. I now these things are sin ins Islam but these are not shirk ryt even am confused to talk to mom this is not not only for this matter even when i talk with my frndz these kind of thoughts are coming ? So I thought these friend or anyone not more important than Allah am talking to them as normAl as other muslims talks without giving more important but then my mind was like these things are not shirk ok I are not giving important to them but previous which U thought in beginning u did with doubts no so those are shirk even if I talk without giving more important and as normal I make this as shirk so now if I do that it shirk ...so now doing these things which are not actually shirk is shirk or not ?? Is there is anything I can do to make those things as normal sin or normal thing because these thoughts came from waswas problem no please give me some solutions ... nd help me to understand are these things are shirk or not ? Is theres anything I can do to be normal

Q: I am a 29 years old, unmarried, looking for a partner. I am struggling to find someone compatible. However today I was driving home at night and saw an ex-boyfriend of mine who is now married walking to mosque with his son. I offered him a ride to mosque and we ended up talking for some time. He asked why I broke up with him and admitted that he still cared for me. I made a joke out of it. Later on I asked him if he could find me a husband, he said he could not but he asked how I felt about being a second wife. My reply was no because I feel I am too jealous. However, I remember watching one of sister aaminas videos where she said that polygamy is actually a gift to the women. I was wondering if you could please explain this to me as I feel if I understood it better I might be more open to it.

Q: I've heard that premarital relationships are haraam, but I'm not sure to what extent am I supposed to keep my distance from this girl I am in love with. My friend keeps telling me to express my feelings to her, but as far as I've learned, I'm supposed to go to the girl's father to ask for her hand in marriage. I don't want to involve our families and make it hard for her to reject me, so I was wondering if it would be halaal to just tell her that I like her and wish to marry her? And then we would go to her father if she accepts my proposal.

Q: I want to know is it permissible to talk to non-mahrams? Like if someone is studying in a co-education and having boy fellows and male teachers so then is it allowed to talk to them? I have heard that a girl is not allowed to talk to non-mahrams but if in case of helping and if a non-mahram shares his problems with you without having any bad intention so is it allowed? Can girls and boys be friends?

Q: Could you tell me how to completely stop talking to ghair mahram men and what is the proof that malaika ar Rahman stays with women who covers her hair?

Q: Is a man allowed to make business with non mahrams if they are his cousins and friends with whom he laughs and is forced to speak beyond business to keep good relations.