revocable talaaq

Q: I have been given 1 talak and was told from the moulana that I must sit in iddat and after 3 cycles my nikaah will be broken. I want to know whether after the 2nd and 3rd talak do I still sit in iddat?

Q: I recently got married. I live abroad and my husband is in Pakistan. One day my husband was angry and said that agar tum Pakistan na ai to meri taraf se azad ho jo marzi kro. When he was calm I asked him what he meant from the word "azad". He said that he didn't mean it as divorce but used it as he wounldn't care about what I do and I am free to do whatever I want and he won't care. He said the word "azad" once. I wanted to know if it's condtional divorce? And what if i don't go to Pakistan will it be considered as one divorce? He assured me that he didn't use the word azad fot talaq but I read somewhere that if the husband says the word azad while he is angry then there is no need to ask about his intention as he meant it as divorce thats why I am worried. And if I go to Pakistan then would it still be consisdered as divorce? One last thing is that I have to come back to Denmark every six months because of my papers. So I asked him when he was calm if he meant that if this time I won't come then I am free or every time I have to go back to Pakistan? He said he meant it this time and not for future. I hope you understand my question and can answer me as I am really confused if I should go to Pakistan or not?

Q: How does one determine that a person issued a particular type of talaaq to his wife. If a talaaq is used as 'I divorce you' how does the poor wife know if this is a talaaq-e-raj'ee (revocable talaaq) or talaaq-baain (irrevocable talaaq). Does it depend on the intention in the heart of the husband and if so how does the wife know which type of talaaq is issued?

Q: My husband has written out a talaaq-e-rajee stating his granting it and our id numbers, date and time. Is it valid and do I start my iddah now? Do I take the letter to the Imam who married us to confirm?

Q: I have been married for almost nine and a half years. I have always contributed to the household taking care of groceries and the other household expenses. My husband never ever gave me an allowance. he has a very extravagant lifestyle and has incurred a lot of debt. He has always taken care of his sister's expenses and spent huge sums of money doing an extravagant wedding for her which partially contributed to his debt. To keep the peace I just continued to make contributions to the house and other expenses. Sometimes cut back on things I needed just to ensure that he got what he wanted. In the past 3 months, he asked if I could assist him with budgeting to help him get out of his debt. I have also helped fund his lavish lifestyle of buying expensive clothes and paying for his fancy cellphone. When I pointed out his faults and where he needs to cut down on. He could not accept that he was wrong and refused to cut back on certain luxury items. In a fit of rage he dumped my clothes at my mums house whilst I was still at work and issued a talaaq 1 on whatsapp an email. I would just like to enquire if iddah is compulsory for me to sit in my mum's home or is it permissible for me to go to work daily. I do feel very alone as my Dad is deceased and my brother is out in 2 months Jamaat in another country at the moment. During this time my husband has gone and discussed the divorce with all my uncles and so he says with the Jamiat as well. Even though the Jamiat did not here my side of the story. his dad is away on Umrah. I sent a message to both his dad and sister telling them that he wants to end our marriage because his in financial distress and yet they are the ones that have put him there. Neither of them even bothered to respond or show me any support and yet I am the one that allowed them to have a good life whilst I had to go out and work and take care of myself. Most of my uncles do show me a lot of support, however I am one who tends to bottle up my feelings and just take the pain and do not express what is really going on inside my heart. Your guidance will really be appreciated.