Bid'ah

Baseless customs

Q:

1. We have the custom that in marriage the brides party have to give so many materials like utensil for kitchen, all item for bed room drawing room etc. And they give the example of marriage of Fatima (R.A.) and Ali (R.A.). Is this allowed in Islam and what is the exact sunnah regarding this issue?

2. If you invite people for walimah they have to bring some gift and without a gift they feel bed. Is this sunnah or what is the rulling?

3. In the time of invitation there is a system of invitation card or betal nut. Is it permissible and what is the sunnah method of invitation?

Eid gifts

Q: I noticed that people are giving "eid gifts" in the same way as the non muslims are giving "Christmas gifts". Is this a practice of Nabee (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) or an innovation? I can not remember any such custom when we were children.

Going to peoples houses for khatam

Q: People call me to there house for khatam. They say sit in the middle and they tell me we have done e.g. 10 katams of Qur'an, many thousands ayaat-e-karima and I do dua for the diseased then we eat. Is it permissible for me to eat? They also give money at the end. What is the Shari'ee hukm with reference?