Various masaail of Nikaah

Wife remaining obedient to her husband

Q:

1. Should the wife give preference to listening to her shaikh's bayaan or to do what the husband requests at that time.

2. Should the wife give preference to listening to the bayaan of an aalim that is a khalifah of her shaikh or to do what the husband requests at that time.

3. Should a wife give preference to read her wazifas for 1 hour or more when she wakes up around 8am or should she be attending to her husband's needs.

4. Is it permissible for a wife to play nazams and qiraat loudly in the house when she knows it causes a disturbance to the husband?

5. Is is permissible to play qiraat loudly in the house when other members of the family are sleeping?

6. Is it appropriate for the mother of children to let them sleep till 10am or 11am on Sundays and holidays? Should she not be inculcating the habit in them of waking up early and doing some work?

Husband not spending time with wife and kids

Q: My husband is not giving proper time to me or my kids. I think he did a second marriage but whenever I ask him he always lies. He goes out every evening and I know everything about this girl but only nikah is not confirmed, whether he did it or not.

If he did nikah then he is hiding it from me (first wife). He gives us money, food, shelter but he does not spend any time time with me or the kids. Is he sinful for not giving time and love to us?

Husband cuddling his mother

Q: I was telling my husband how I read online by a sheikh/imam that it is not allowed for a grown man to be cuddling his mother whilst laying next to her or for a mother to cuddle her grown son like this. He got annoyed and said she's my mother and I don't want to listen to your nonsense. I asked him further and said what are you calling nonsense? He said that you are saying me or my mother aren't allowed to cuddle each other. I said it isn't nonsense it's not allowed. I have told him this probably atleast 2 or 3 times but I don't think he believes me. He has alot of knowledge of Islam alhamdulliah but he has not read the whole of the quran.

1. Because my husband believes that sleeping next to your mother and cuddling her or her cuddling her grown son is not wrong, does this make him an unbeliever?

2. Does this break my nikah?