Those situations where Talaaq does not take place

Q: I would like to enquire about an argument that occurred between my spouse and myself in 2003. During that time I uttered the word Tala Tala Tila. Since then my wife and I lived together as normal lives until Jan 2013. Recently my wife had a small problem and now stated about that incident whereby I had said those words. I confronted her parents in 2003 about the matter and explained the situation that it was not intentional. My wife is insisting that she heard the words back then. Also to note that we got a baby girl in 2007 who is currently 7 years of age. This has since become a problem and we require clarity as to if the marriage is over? I await your feedback.

Q: If a couple gets separated for some reason and the husband stops paying for the expenditure of his wife after getting separated, does it mean that their marriage has automatically broken? If yes, how long after the separation will the marriage break?

Q: If your wife is found in a secluded environment with other men. Is the nikah still valid even though she insists it was innocent?

Q: Me and my wife are not talking for two months. Since our seperation I have made no oath not to return to her or talk to her she is the one who
does not want to talk or reconcile. How does this affect our nikah am I still her husband?

Q: In an argument with my wife she said she wants a divorce. Later that day I sent these text messages. If you want to leave me speak to your dad, you know what to do. If you want to leave me, go and get  khula, go to the shariah council. I had no intention of divorce. In a later message I also said I have no intention of leaving you. Has divorce taken place.

Q: My husband is a revert and is still learning. My brothers are mischievous and always get in trouble. They played a prank on him and told him that I love you like crazy in Arabic is talaktuki and he said it to me. I said what and he said it again. I want to kill my brothers they are kids and thought it's funny. What must I do?

Q: I have a question about divorce. My husband is a high blood pressure patient and nowadays he is suffering from facial paralysis and a heart problem as well. So when his BP shoots, he is not even in his senses. He pronounced divorce four times in that stream anger and high BP and when he found me weeping then he realised that he was out of senses and pronounced that word. I am very upset please guide me.

Q: I wanted to ask, in an argument I said to my wife "If you to want to leave me, do what you got to do, it is up to you". In my head I was thinking if my wife wants to leave me I will leave her. But she said to me that she did not mean or say she wanted to leave me.

Q: Could you please give clarity on the issue of talaaq. If I have said to my wife that we should separate and subsequent to that we are both in agreement that our marriage is over. Will this be considered a talaq? Secondly, if i have uttered the words, I hereby give you a talaq and she records it on her cellphone, when nobody else is around, will that stand as a valid talaq? Lastly, if I have said the words and the same night my wife states that she has started spotting (starting menstruating), does it make the talaq invalid or is it simply a case of the Iddah period being moved till after spotting ends?

Q: My husband told me that I should remind him tomorrow morning to write it for me then I can go and marry who I like. Is this a divorce or an intention to divorce me if I remind him? The next morning he did not write it for me and did not say anything.