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Breaking an oath

Q: I made an oath that I won’t do a particular thing ever again (anytime in the future). If do it then will it be considered as shirk? Now I broke it so does that mean whenever I do it again it will be considered as shirk even after I broke the oath?

Qasam torna

Q: Mera sawal ye hai k 4 saal pehle mje aik larke ne kaha tha k wo mje pasand karta hai, mere sath class me parta tha, wo mujhse baat karna chahta tha.. Pasand to mje b wo tha par me aese larkon se baat karna us waqt sahi nh samajhti thi mje ye maloom tha k Allah ko naraz kiya to wese hi kuch nh milna..agar uski maan li to uski rehmat se umeed hai k nawaz de ga...mene usey kaha k khuda ki qasam me apse 3 saal baad baat karungi...usne itna kaha tha k me intezar karonga... Me medical k frst year me thi tub mene ye souch k qasam khayi thi k 3 saal baad me apne maa baap se iske barey me baat karungi to achi b lagon gi...lekin usko yehi kaha tha k me 3 saal baad apse baat karungi.. 2 saal guzar gaye uska koi ata pata na tha, achanak mene usko aik jaga dekha usne darhi rakhi hui thi phr pata laga tableegh me lag gya tha...aas paas k logon se uski bari naik naami suni... Phr Allah ne mje hidayat di, haram halaal ka farq samajh aya..3 saal guzar gaye...wada pora karne

Unmarried woman taking an oath that if she does something then her nikaah will break

Q:

1. If before giving the marriage consent in front of witnesses a girl takes an oath that if she does a certain thing her nikaah is invalid but she breaks the above oath when she is married ...is her nikaah valid?

2. If after giving the marriage consent in front of witnesses a girl takes an oath that if she does a certain thing her nikaah is invalid but she breaks the above oath when she is married ...is her nikaah valid?

Waada ka torna

Q: Mera swal ha k mana Allah pak sa wada kya k ma ya kam nai karo ga lekin mana phir wo kam kar deya or ab muja ya kheyal a raha ha k mana ya wada keya tha k agar mana ya kam dobara keya tu islam sa kharij ho jao ga ya muja kheyal a raha ha or muja ya pata nai k mana ya be kaha tha k nai.agar tu kaha hoa tu is ka kaffara kasa pora karu or kya sachi tauba kar ka dobara kalma paru muja ap bataya agar asi bat ka waham ho jai tu kalma par k tauba qabool ho jati ha

Breaking a promise

Q: For some years a religious guilt feeling blocks my mind. Before starting the story I have two cousins and I name them as A and B.

When I was studying in grade six, a gang of boys of about six including those two cousins used to buy and see porn cd's. When this came to my knowledge, cousin B asks me to make a promise that if they show me those videos and if I tell others or our parents then education will not come to me. At that age I had never seen such movies and I touched his hand to promise then only will they show it to me. I had done umrah before all this happened. So after some years they two had a chance to go for umrah and after coming from umrah cousin B told me that their sin is erased by going for umrah and I saw porn after visiting umrah.

In that situation I felt guilty and I think of the expenses of my parents to go for umrah, so I decided to tell my mom. Now my cousin A knows that I told my parents and I forgot whether I asked sorry for breaking my promise.

Now for some years when I am studying that promise (if I told anyone about seeing porn then education will not come) comes infront of my mind and it blocks my mind from concentrating and I feel depressed and I feel like I cant study. Can we make a promise not to see porn and tell it to others for guilt feeling? 

Taking an oath that one will not talk to a certain person

Q: I promised Allah that I won’t talk to my friend first, meaning I won’t start the conversation first. Yesterday he called and I answered then we spoke. So now can I call him and talk to him or do I still have to wait for him to start the conversation. If I start the conversation will it be like breaking that promise. Some time I feel like I promised not to start the conversation ever so what should I do if I am not sure my oath. Can I talk to that friend or will it be considered as breaking the promise?