bathing

Q: My wife's father demands from her to massage him and bath him while he is just wearing bermuda type shorts. He ignores her condition or tiredness. I want to know if it is allowed for him to demand this service from her? Am I justified forbidding her to do so? He lives in another city and keeps on insisting for her to come there, totally ignorant of the fact that she has a job and kids to look after. Now he is demanding to move in with her just for the reason that she may serve him like that. He has a wife who is my wife's step mother. I do not like her massaging or bathing him in his semi nude condition, but my wife said that its a culture of their country.

Q: Is it allowed in Islam to bath with your husband or wife in a bathroom which also has toilet (wc) in it.

Q: Please could you tell me if there is any ruling in Islam for a father not to help with the looking after of his daughter with bathing her and washing her when she uses the bathroom. My daughter is now six and insha Allah another girl on the way. My mother in law refuses to let me help and insists only she and my wife may do this.