murder

Returning to one's husband after a divorce

Q: My father has recently passed away and he got murdered brutally by a man who hit him on his head with a knife and then slit his throat whilst my dad was still alive. I loved my father very much and it feels to me that somebody has killed me brutally. I am worried that my father may be in pain or discomfort in his grave. I read surah mulk at night but I feel very restless.

Also I have recently been divorced (1 year ago) but my husband gave me verbal divorce and now he says that he can bring me back only if at the cost that I accept his terms and conditions once being that I may not be able to work for a while. I don't want to go back to my husband as I hate him now and I want to consider someone else (my colleague) who gives me the respect I deserve and loves me. What do I need to do in this situation? If I don't go back to my husband, would it be a sin? I feel frustrated that I haven't done enough for my dad and he may be suffering... I can't sleep and I have arthritis and fibromyalgia which aggravated my muscular pain when I am in stress. Sometimes I just think that I should die as all this frustration and worry for my father is killing me and I feel helpless. 

Divorce and custody of child if husband is in jail

Q: I need guidance in this situation:

My husband is in jail for murder, and has not been incarcerated yet. It has been one year now and this is a cause of stress and pain to me. We have a child and I am getting no financial support from him nor his family. My child does not know that her father is in jail. I kept my child away from seeing him because I know how hurt my child would be. Due to this matter, am I able to get a divorce?

He is asking me to see his child, does he still have the right to see his child if he is in jail? If a divorce takes place, do I still have to bring my child to see him?