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Q: I'm a Muslim and I have a few questions about my situation with my husband which I hope you can help with.

We been married for 4 years and one time we had an argument and he was so angry that he couldn't control what he was saying and I asked him for a divorce and he said that we are divorced, then he took me back in the same day. Another time, over the phone we had a big fight and he said to me that we will finish but we stayed together and we got advice from the imaam that it is not divorce. This week we had a fight and I gave him a choice for something either that thing or we finish, his reply was so we finish then and told me that its not his choice for that thing as it has nothing to do with him.

So we don't know if this talaq is done or not as I was on my period again. And other thing is that he is saying that he thinks that there is another time he said we finished in between these divorces times but he is not sure and I can't remember that it was any other time. So we are not sure if this is our third talaq or not and if this last one happened, also we don't know if we are still married or not.

We love eachother and we want to stay with eachother, we just want a halal life.