Gifts

Accepting gifts without the consent of one's father

Q:

1. At the time of my marriage my relatives gave me gold ornaments as gifts but my father does not like at all that I receive those gifts. Can I accept those gifts without the consent of my father?

2. If I don't accept those gifts to please my father, can I accept it after my marriage as I will be no more under his responsibility rather I will be under my husband's responsibility?

3. If my father told me that I don't like you accepting those gifts even after your marriage and I agreed to him, can I still accept them after my nikah or not?

Hadya milne ki khwahish rakhna

Q: Meri dost he. Usne ye sawal puchha hy wo bachon ko tution aur quran pak prhti hy free men. Uski dusri frnd bhi yehi kaam krti hen unki talbat un ke lye gifts lkr ati hen jis se andaza hta hy k talbat ko mualima se muhabat hy. Ye dekh kr meri dost ka dil bhi krta hy k ussy b uski talbat gifts aur hadya den taake usy mehsus ho k wo b apni talbat ko aziz hy. Ab meri dost ye pushna chahti hy k agr esa khyal dil m ata hy to is se gunah hga ya ye khyal krna jaez hy? Aur ye khyal dil m hi ata hy wo kbhi kisi se mangti nhi kuchh.

Sharing itr

Q: My sheikh gave me an itr and said that use it when you come to listen to the majlis. Can I give that to one other poor person who goes with me there?

Gifts from customers

Q: Please advise on the permissibility of the following two gifts:

1. I recently went to Asia on a business trip on behalf of the company for which I work. I visited numerous Asian customers who gave me a small gift. I assume that this is part of the Asian culture.

2. One of the sales managers who gives out year-end gifts to our customers, gave me one of these gifts. I believe that this was surplus stock. Please advise in each case whether it is permissible to keep these gifts.

Promising to give something to someone

Q:

1. If I told someone that I will give you this dress, that person didn't say anything, can I change my decision and keep the dress for myself?

2. I told a person that I will give you something but that person said he does not need it, but I insisted on him to accept the offer and he somehow agreed, then later I thought in my mind that maybe that person really don't need my thing so well I will give it to some other person then, so can I change my decision like this?