Tasawwuf

Q: What is the correct method for a women to choose a sheikh for Islaah. Does she have to have her husbands permission? Do both husband and wife have to have the same sheikh?

Q: What is mufti's opinion on being initiated into the Naqshbandi tariqa? Is it authentic? Allegedly there is a connection from the Sheikh Muhammad Nazim Adil al-Haqqani qaddasa-l-Lahu sirrah to Prophet Muhammad ibn Abd Allah, Salla Allahu `alayhi wa alihi wa sallam, is this true?

Q: Can you please explain to me what is tasawwur-e-shaikh and its benefits. I am bayat to one of Hazrat Shaikh's Khulafah.

Q: I came across a Durood that is used by some sufi's during their healing sessions, they claim that this durood is based on the names of our Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) that are hidden in the Quran, the two names are 'TAHA' and 'YASEEN'. The complete Durood is “Bismillaahi yasin habeebullah wa taha rasoolullaah Salalahu Allyahi Waslam”.

1. Is it permissible to recite this darood.
2. Is it permissible to recite other names of our Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) with the intention of seeking Allah's help, mercy and cure. I don't think the recitation of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) name will lead to shirk, because many of those names appear in Quran along with words like 'YA'.

Q: I wanted to know how to control nafs and I ended up in a site which tells you how to kill it permanently. But I have doubts concerning them. I dont know if it is permissible or not to do this kind of wazifa. The site is www.wazifas.com and I was searching for  http://www.wazifas.com/how-to-kill-your-nafs.php Can you read them and tell me if I can do these wazifa. Even my parents are confused. We have never heard about these things before. if it is not permisssible, can you tell me how to control your nafs and desires?

Q: I live in a city called Birmingham in the UK.  You advised me to keep the company of the pious.  There is one scholar who is a graduate of Darul Uloom Bury, here in the UK.  He is the khalifa of a Naqshbandi Sheikh.  I have attended his Majlis for over a year.  I am ashamed to say that, due to my own weakness, I have obtained little benefit.  I have tried to concentrate and keep in touch with him. I have become demoralised because he is not easily accessible.  The reasons for this I feel are:

1. I don’t feel able to speak openly to him.
2. His serious demeanour makes him unapproachable at times.
3. On a couple of occasions he has not responded to questions, which he has said he would go away and think about.
4. Immediately after Salah, he usually goes home or if he does stay behind there are always close mureeds of his that that take all his time.

What should be done in such a situation?  I feel all alone and frustrated. 

Q: What is the correct age to become bayt? Do females have to  become bayt? Does the wife have to become bayt to the same person her husband chose?

Q: I read that sufi shaykhs make tawajjuh (by talking to them and staring in their eyes) to their new murids, and the murid would experiance wajd or jazbah, this would be kind of ecstasy or so, and could result in joy or  crying, sadness, falling down etc. What is the truth behind this?