divorce

Shaadi me pareshaani

Q: Meri shaadi ku 6 saal ho rahy he. Mery do bachy he. Dono larky he barha chaar saal ka chota do saal ka he magr pechle 1sal se meri bv bat bat mai naraz ho ky apne meky jati h kbi 2mahine to kbi 4 mahine guzrne k bad mafi mang k wapas ha chuki hy magr abi bi osy 2mahine phr se hore hy wo phr naraz hoky gai hy or jab bi wo naraz hoky meky jati h to bacho ko nai le jati hy jab mai ne waja pucha to muj se kehne lagi 'bachy tmare sat kush hy mere samne abi pori zindagi hy ap muje aazad kro mai ja k dosri shadi krogi' or yeh bat meri bv ne muje kehne k bad kagaz pe lekh k bi muje diya h. Mera sawal yeh hy k kia mai ain halat mai apni bv ko os k kehne k mutabiq talaq de sakta ho jab k bachhy apni maa k liye rote hy or maa une apne pas rakne ko teyar nai kia shariyat mai ais ky bare mai kuch h please koi raasta batae.

Relationship with one's father after divorce

Q: I have a very complicated question for you. Basically, my mother got divorced from my father many years ago, it was a forced marriage and was not built to last of course. Father was 40 years older than her, she was just 16 when she got married. Now she is saying I cannot speak to him, nor attend his funeral if he dies. In fact this year she has told me to completely sever all relations with him, otherwise she will disown me. I know she has been through hell and back because of him, and they did not get on well with one another, but do I have any rights, or must I be obedient and do sabr? If mother finds out that I have even glanced at him, I will be disowned and possibly thrown out of the house. I don't blame either of them. I love them both, but why must I go through all this? Is this a punishment for my sins? Your help would be greatly appreciated.