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Q: I have recently got married last month but our honeymoon was full of eyn (bad eye) and shytan. During the honeymoon my wife would talk and have open conversations with taxi drivers and walk ahead of me and always on her phone and we had a fight where I lightly slapped her on the side of her head. Also she did not allow me to have sex with her for the last 7 days of the honeymoon. She did not respect me and was very rude in the manner she spoke to me in and 2 nights she slept in a different room! She would always be on her phone and not talk to me I told her many times I don't like this but she said I don't care! There have been soooo many issues during this time! She has disrespected me telling me that I do not want your money and take ur presents back!

Before the honeymoon she had asked for divorce 4 times because I contact her too much call and text too much. When she went home she told her family about me slapping her and her family obviously went crazy n want divorce now but it's still debatable!!

So I am now in a situation where there is another lady I loved before this arranged marriage and I wish to marry her. Do I need by islam to confirm with the first wife or should I wait till I'm divorced?? I want to know what to do and what is halal and what is haram. 

Q: Due to excessive masturbation since my childhood, i have become very weak sexually. Now my family wants me to get married. I also want to get married but I try to run from it because of my sexual weakness. I do not want to be embarassed in front of my wife. Please tell what should I do. Also, I also feel shy when I think of having sex with my wife. I try a lot to stop masturbation but I cannot.

Q: I have a girl that I love, we're both Muslims. She is married to a family very close to mine though we can still marry because people do it before, but now she is saying that we cannot marry because our families are too close. She gave birth to a girl in another family before re-marrying to this current family... I don't want to commit zina. What should I do? 

Q: If the parents have done everything they could for their children, for example, my father has scarficed a lot for his children, he gave us education. We are 6 sisters and 3 brothes. All my brothers Alhamdulillah are engineers and two elder sisters are married and two are Alhamdulillah doctors.

My question is that one of my sisters, who is a doctor is being forced to marry our cousin who is my father's nephew. Years ago the relation was tied and my sister had no clue about it, she got to know later when it was made official. After her graduation my parents, even my brothers and two elder sisters who are married are forcing her to marry the cousin. All these years she was highly depressed over it and would cry in sajood. Meanwhile our parents and our elder siblings have told us that we should marry whoever our parents want us to because they've sacrificed a lot for us and that our father gave us education in the society where girls aren't supposed to get out and study. And in our society we do not marry out of the cast. So we have no option. We have to marry our cousins. It doesn't matter if they're educated or not.

Basically my question is that are we disobeying our parents or taking their sacrifices as for granted if we aren't willing to marry who they want us to get marry? My sister is really depressed. All these years she'd cry but now when the days have come close she has agreed to marry because she has been pressurised if she doesn't get married to whoever her father wants, it'd hurt her parent's feelings plus she has no choice rather than the cousin cause her age will pass by and none will marry her because as I mentioned above we are not supposed to get married out of our cast according to our society.

Q: Is it mandatory to seek prior permission from the first wife for second marriage in Islam.

Q: Someone has told me that it is permissible to marry a Christian man, a Christian that doesn't convert to Islam and still have a halal marriage. This sounds totally incorrect and wrong, please elaborate.

Q: I am a first time mum and my baby is almost 3 months. I feel that I might be pregnant due to not getting my menses on time. Is it permissible for me to take a pill? I feel my child is still too small and I dont want her right of being breastsfed not be fulfilled to her stipulated age. However I just feel I could be pregnant and it is not for certain.

Q: I have been married from 10+ years. I have a daughter of 8 years. It was a marriage arranged from my family. When I saw my wife after marriage, I didn't like her but I kept patience. But since then she does things which I deny or do not allow. Then she joined a job which I said don't do. Her father supported her. Then also I kept patience. She never takes care of me like whenever I say my legs are paining or my I have headache she doesn't care and do not apply oil or do not massage despite my order. But the last thing which is very much troubling me is that she has no or very little sex drive. Approximately 1 out of 3-4 times only she agrees. I never dominate. I have asked her many times to her and her family that I will marry another girl but she is not changing and not even her family is taking this seriously. From last 3-4 years I am thinking to marry another girl. I have enough property and feel that I will able to treat them equally and with justice. 1) Whats your suggestion? 2) Is the anger of my first wife and my daughter's sadness which may come in consequence of marrying another girl, right?