nikaah

Delaying the nikaah

Q: I am a 26 year old girl. I got a proposal last year and it's already been a year. He and his family are assuring us that once he gets a job and settles, then only will we proceed further. My parents are very worried about me. I dont want to be the reason of my parents sadness. Actually the main problem is that he is from South and I am from North. In South marriage, there willbe a grand show off and all that but currently he is jobless. My parents still agreed and are ready but he is stuck on one thing that he needs a job. We must just wait 8 more months. I just want a halal relationship. One more thing I would like to ask is that we did a register marriage in January 2017, just to avoid wrong deeds but now I am feeling that without Allah's blessing how can we be happy. So I am insisting to get marry according Islamic shariya but he says that he can't do it now and he needs time. Please suggest what to do because I am completely lost. I really dont know what to do. 

Taking birth control pills

Q: I am a first time mum and my baby is almost three months. I feel I might be pregnant due to not getting my menses on time. Is it permissible for me to take a pill? I feel my child is still too small and I don't want her right of being breastsfed not be fulfilled to her stipulated age. However, I just feel I could be pregnant. It is not for certain.

Making enquiries regarding the aqaaid of the person one wishes to marry

Q: I am engaged but I am unclear about the boys deeni committments. I think he doesn't know much about deen as he says that he is a simple Muslim and thats it. Can you please guide me as to what questions should my family ask him in order for the the nikah to be valid? Is it necessary to question his aqaaid if he offers namaaz?

Delaying the rukhsati

Q: My question is I’m getting my nikaah done in dec and might get rukhsti in 2019. My question is how long it is allowed to keep a nikah before rukhsti any specific time period. Because I heard we cannot keep nikaah more than a year rukhsti should be done before a year.

Marrying an atheist

Q: My muslim friend wants to get married to an atheist guy from thailand. My friend said that she will mary him after he converts to Islam. But the atheist guy said that he only will convert to Islam because he wants to marry her not because he believes in Islam. Is this marriage haram? Shall I try to stop my friend from marrying this atheist guy?