In-Laws

Q: My husband, my mother in law and myself live together. I don't have a full kitchen of my own but I have kitchenette upstairs with the basics - fridge, toaster, kettle and microwave. 

In Ramadhan, my husband says we should all 3 have sehri downstairs because his mother shouldn't be eating alone. I responded saying that if he would like he can go downstairs for sehri but I will be having sehri upstairs as I don't see why I should have all meals together all the time. 

Islamically am I entitled to have some meals separately. Please advise.

Q: If the husband is not in favour of keeping his mother in law for an extended time, should a wife convince him or leave it?

Q: I miss my mother alot. My husband, due to his issues with extended family, is living in the same house and does not take me to visit my mother. He does not allow me to stay with her. He is keeping me away from my mother. I don't feel loved here and I am trying to build relations here but my mother is also very sickly and she misses me as well.

I know that I have to obey my husband but it gets very tough as he goes to his mother house whenever he wants and sometimes I'm alone and get depressed. He visits his parents for about 3 days in a week. He does allow my mum to come over but she is not very comfortable. Please advise me. 

Q: I wanted to share something about my parents and wife. My parents are not treating my wife well, we all stay under one roof. They say that you both (me and my wife) are equal to them, but when it comes to something they always consider me alone and not my wife. I always raise my voice against this but this leads to a disturbance at my home.

During Covid, I’ve been working at home since then and sometimes I wanted to take my wife out once in a month and that too creates issue. My parents say only you can go and not your wife.

She always wakes early and completes all her work of home but my parents don't even let her go to her own home. This is cruelty and I don't think Islam taught us this way.

Q: Is it permissible for a father-in-law to shake hands with his son's wife when greeting each other? The father in law is 58 years old and the daughter in law is 20.

Q: I am a Muslim and the man I want to marry became a Muslim 2 years ago. His family are Hindu and want us to live with them.

Is it permissible to live with people who have idols in their house and worship them even if their part of the house has been sectioned off so that there are two separate living areas?

Is it permissible for us to live there even though they drink wine?

Is it permissible for me to show my hair to my Hindu father and mother in law?

If the husband can afford to live separately, should this be the option he takes?

Q: What are the duties of in laws towards their son in law? Are they obliged by Islam to call and visit their son in law more often and if he is living abroad and comes after 7 months should that son in law be invited to any party etc? If a son in law takes this as an issue that why didn't they invite me home etc. what should a wife do in this case?

Q: Is it allowed for a man to call his "mother in law" ammi or mother? 

Q: My sister in laws have some misunderstandings with me. My in laws and mother in law used to say not to trust me whatever I do. They used to brain wash my husband. I myself expect love from them but they wanted me to respect and love them but they never do the same for me. They are making such problems which are big headache for me. Can in laws command my husband through wrong directions according to Islam?

Q: When a husband passes away a) does the husbands father (father inlaw) remain a mahram for the wife? b) does the wife still have to go and visit her father in law? Or does she no longer have any relation with her inlaws? c) is it appropriate for the wife to say that that is my 'father inlaw' and 'mother inlaw'?