Interacting

Attending an engagement

Q: I am invited to my 1st cousins engagement. I am the only female in niqaab and I am the only person in my family who is in a Darul Uloom. I don't know if I shouldn't go because I don't want to break the law of Allah Ta'ala or must I go to keep family ties. If I don't go then my family will get really upset with me but doesn't the command of Allah Ta'ala come first?

Free mixing with non-mahrams

Q: I am a girl and two of my girl cousins recently got married and their husbands mix freely with them in playing some games such as cards or monopoly for example. They always force me to play with them and I try not to play with them anymore.

I heard that free mixing is haraam and I tried to tell them but they mocked me and said that we are just playing cards and we are not sitting near each other, there's a distance.

I wanted to ask what should I do? Am I sinful for playing with them because their husband's aren't my mahram although we keep distance? How can I convince them if it is haraam?

Speaking to a non-mahram

Q: I have come across a sister who is Alhamdullilah very nice and has good knowledge about Islam and even practices a lot. She loves me a lot and I too love her for the sake of Allah. I met her 4 months ago. But now the problem I am having is that she talks too much and I get irritated.

Everyday she calls me and talks for 2 hours. Each and every day she calls. If I am busy and I can't receive the phone she will continously call 15 to 20 times. I am quite an introvert person and I dont like to talk much. She says that I have to be an extrovert to call people to Islam. I Have to be open and talk to people.

I love her but this is something that is really irritating me a lot. She usually talks about Islam and Hadith but sometimes too much talking also leads to gossip and useless talks. I am not able to understand how to get rid of this. Can you help me from any hadaith or Quran which I can relate to her.

Is it not wrong to talk so much whether its useless or about Deen. I can't explain how much its irritating me. Should I cut off with her? If I switch off my phone she calls my brother.