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Khuda Ta'ala par shikaayat karna

Q: Mujhe ek masla malum karna hai ek ladki hai jo apne waalid ki izzat karti hai magar uska waalid uski taraf sakht dil hai or wo ladki job karti hai ghar mai bhi paise deti hai magar uska waalid befikr hai wo kaam nahi karta or waalid 5waqt ka namazi dusro ki madad karne wala tahajjudguzar or haj bhi kia hua h sadqa zakat time pe dene wala islamic rules pe muqammal chalne wala hai magar uski beti ki taraf uska rawaiya thik nhi or uski beti job karti hai phr ghar mai bacho ko tuition deti hai paise ghar mai deti hai jisse uski maa uski shadi ka saman or ghar mai bhi kharch karti hai .. bachpan mai 15 saal ki umar tak bachi ko baap marta bhi tha ab nahi marta magr jb ladki gharpe aati h sham ko mehnat karke thak jati hai to uska waalid usse ghar ke kaam bina taras khae karata hai or kehta hai namaz padho to is rawayye se ladki 23 ki hone ke baad ab keh rahi hai ki allah uske sath galat kar rha hai or aisi aisi baten bol rahi hai to mujhe ye malum karna hai ki ladki ka pareshan hoke aise alfaz nikalna kaisa hai or ye ladki aisi condition mai h ki isko lgta h duniya mai isse zyda koi pareshan nahi ise kisiki sunni bhi nahi hai to ise kaise samjhae iska kya ilaaj ho skta hai or baap se koi baat nahi kar skta kyuki wo kisiki nahi sunta. Please detail mai batae.

Har cheez ki qadar karna

Q: Mujha pata ha mana bohat likh dia lakin ma kisi sa apna masla khol ka share chata tha Ma ap ka jawab ka muntazar ho

Mari walida ko aj sa 13/14 sal pahla cancer ho gaya jin ka ilaj bhi karwaya aor aon ko sahat bhi mili lakin koch wajohat ki wajha sa ham ragula chack up ya falow up na karwa saka (aos waqat ma 6 sal ka ab ma 18 ka ho) Jis wajha sa 4 sal pahla dobara cancer ho gaya hum na phir ila karwaya lakin cancer 1 jagha sa khatam hota to dosri jagha nikal ata phir hum na kisi alim sa rabta kia (aos waqat mara jado wagara pa yaqin na tha aor ghar walo ko bhi nahi tha) khar aonho na huma bataya ka koi jado karta ha mari walida pa hum na aon sa dum karwaya to arazi tor pa aram ajata lakin jab jado dobara hota to phir tabyat kharab ho jati ilaj aor dum ka silsala chlta raha aon alim ka intaqal ho gaya to hum na kisi aor sa rabta kia phir kisi aor alim sa aor phir kisi aor sab ka yahi kahna tha jado ha lakin ab is jado ka masla par koch kami i ha lakin wo shaks jo jado kar raha ha wo apni pori koshish kar raha ha Ap janta ho ga ka cancer ka ilaj bohat mangha ha laki Allah na huma waha waha ata kia ha jaha hmari soch bhi na thi lakin mukamal sahat na di mari walda bhot kamzor ho gai han aj sa phala jitna bhi waqt gozra asihalat nahi hoi is ka sath wo bohat mauos bhi ho gai han wo jina to chati ha lakin dard aor bimari ka is tawil arsa ki wajha sa moot ki talab karti ha

Ma aor mara gahar wala Allah sa har tarha sa dua kar choka han bohat wazifa kia han lakin mukaml sahat nahi mil rahi Mari halat bohat bori ho choki ha ma bohat mauos ho Allah sa mangna bhi chor dia mujha pata ha ya galat ha lakin.! Hum sadka bhi karta han aor zaqat bhi kisi ki madad ho to apni aokat ka mutabik madad bhi karata Ap batyan mari walda kya sahat ki mustahiq nahi aonho sari zindagi taqlif ma bita di kya aon ko apni aolad ki koshya dakhana ka koi haq nahi mujha pata ha akhrat ma aon ka lia bohat acha ha lakin jis aolad ka lia wo zinda rahi bimari ka ba wajod har zarorat pori ki kya aon ki koshya dakhna ka aon ko koi haq nahi Hum kis tarha Allah sa manga Allah kahata mara ajzi mango ma do ga to huma kyo nahi data Mujha pata ha mana bohat likh dia lakin ma kisi sa apna masla khol ka batana chata tha Ma ap ka jawab ka muntazar ho

Waalid ka apne bachche ka maal istimaal karna

س: ایک شخص کسی مقدمے کی وجہ سے باہر کے ملک چلا گیا اپنے تیں کوشش کرتا رہا کہ اپنے ماں باپ بیوی بچوں کی ضروریات زندگی کا مکمل خیال رکھے۔ مقدمے کی وجہ سے زمین جائیداد اسکے نام نہیں لگ سکتی اس صورتحال میں اسکی والدہ نے قبل از وفات بنک میں کچھ رقم اپنے اس بیٹے کے بچوں کے نام کروا دی۔ جو کہ دو چار سال کے بعد معاشی مجبوری کی وجہ سے اس شخص نے نکلوا کر استعمال کی گھر بنوا کر اپنی بیوی کے نام لگوایا گھر کا خرچ بھی چلایا۔ اب اس شخص کا بیٹ اپنے ماں باپ کی مجبوری کا فائدہ اٹھاتے ہوے ہر غلط کام بھی کرتا ہے اور انہیں دھمکاتے ہوے اس پیسے پر اپنی ملکیت جتلاتا ہے کہ میرے نام پہ دادی نے پیسے جمع کرواوے تھے وہ تم لوگ کھا گیے ہو مجھے میرے پیسے واپس چاہئیں۔ جبکہ وہ اپنی برائیوں پہ روک ٹوک کرنے پہ ماں کو گالیاں اور باپ پہ ہاتھ اٹھانے تک تیار بیٹھا ہے۔ اس صورتحال میں ایسے بیٹے کا قرآن و حدیث سے کیا حصہ بنتا ہے اسی مقدمے کی وجہ سے وہ مسلسل اپنے ماں باپ کو بلیک میل۔کرتا ہے اور اپنی دھونس جماتا ہے۔ براے مہربانی مفصل جواب سے رہنمائی کریں۔ جزاک اللہ خیر

Muslim step father preventing a non-believing father from visiting his child

Q: I have married a woman who has one childern (6 year old girl) with a non believer. The childs father wants to visit his daughter and take her for weekends with him. He is taking her with him to pubs where people are non believers, drinking alcohol and smoking cigarettes. Do I have a right as her stepfather not to allow this visiting, etc.? 

Who is the wali for nikaah in the absence of the father?

Q: I am a Muslim Arab born and live in the U.K. I'm in the process of marrying an amazing Bengali girl. There's just one problem, her father and mother were divorced ages ago and she hasn't seen her father in 4 years. She has tried to contact him to be her wali as that's what the Quran says but no reply. It's been about a week and half but we want the nikah to be as quick as possible so we don't delay it. What should we do? Should we wait till her father replys no matter how long we wait? Her father has no family here in the U.K. either?

Performing nikaah in a different language

Q: I had a few questions regarding nikaah:

1. What is the correct procedure for nikaah? What does it involve and how is it done?

2. If the bride's father is alive but does not wish to attend the nikaah, can the bride's brother be her wali? Is the nikaah valid without the presence of the father?

3. Does it matter which language the nikaah is performed - for example, if the bride or groom or witnesses do not understand what is said by whoever is performing the nikaah, is the nikaah valid? Also, does ijaab and qabool have to be said in Arabic?

Registering adopted child under the adoptive fathers name

Q: May I ask if me and my husband can adopt and register under my husband's last name my sisters's (non-muslim sister) newborn child. Due to some circumstances the baby cant be registered because the father wont allow to put it under his name. (Unfortunately they are not married), so we are finding the way to help the baby to be registered and that is why we came up with the idea of adopting the child instead. Is it permissible? There is no possibility to put the baby's name under her own father.

Fulfilling the rights of one's father

Q: We have been married for 42 years. Her father objected and still to this day refuses to speak to me despite me extending my hand many times. He did not attend the weddings of our children even though they went to ask him personally. My wife recently went to meet him against my wishes - she says she has a right because it's her father, is this allowed?