Q: I love a boy. I have prayed for him in my sujood. He has proposed to me. Now what should I do? Should I accept his proposal? Should I consider it as mercy of Allah? I have cried to get him in my sujood. But if I accept his proposal then my parents would get hurt. What should I do now? Accept his proposal or not?
Q: I have undergone a situation in my life. I want you to interpret, and where possible comment on it and make dua.
A few months back two proposals came to my door at the same time. One proposal was of the boy who is my teacher and likes me. He sent his mother to see me. The other one was of a random boy who lives nearby. His mother also came to see me. Coincidently, they both arrived at the same time and I was sitting in front of both. These two ladies were actually relatives and knew each other. They were also talking to each other over other worldly things. They both left. After a few months, the other lady (not my teacher's mother) came to officially approve the rishta and asked for our approval. My mother did istikhara for this proposal and did not see anything on the first day. The next day she did the same istikhara procedure and after fajr prayers she saw that the boy with whom I am supposed to get engaged was hugging me but deep in heart he knew I did not love him and I love my teacher (whose mother came to see me that day in front of his mother). My mother was confused. Therefore, she asked a learned person to do istikhara on our behalf and he said that istikhara was satisfactory and that we may proceed. We accepted the proposal and said yes in a few days. In this time, my teacher's proposal did not show any progress. A small scale engagement took place and we made a bond with each other, just after this, things began to get worse. My in laws behaved well but by all their doings began to show that they have no interest in us. My mother in law did not use to call me and on the eid day, did not bother to call and say eid mubarak to me. We followed all the customs and did all the good with them but their response was never satisfactory. She used to talk well, asked us if we can sit for the wedding date but never sat. Whatever we gifted to them was unused. As if they knew they cannot continue and did not want to keep us happy. We tried ignoring until a few days back she called me to her house for dinner and after a few days, my father in law came to my dad and said our boy does not want to marry. He wanted to break and that day everything was over.
Mufti sahab I was not wrong. I was very sincere with these people. I dont know what happened with me in this whole time. After years of prayers, I was blessed with a proposal returning and things proceeding but ultimately I am back where I was. I want you to please look at my situation if you can find any connection of this happening with previous event or my mother's dream. And please make some dua for my future.
Q: Is it permissible to reject a marriage proposal on the grounds of not being physically attracted to the person? Or does attraction only come after marriage?
Q: Mera sawal ye hai k ladki ki shadi k liye kiya ladke aur us k ghar walon ko ladki ki picture dekhana jaaiz hai agar ladka mulk se bahar ho to us ko phele picture dekhana jaaiz hai?
Q: My family are trying to set me up as a marriage proposal to my second cousin but he is a salafi. Is there anything I need to know before trying to move forward with this?
Q: I would like to know if a girl that wears hijab gets a proposal from a boy that she likes and he likes her. But the problem is that he doesn't like her wearing hijab. Should she give him time to like it or should she not marry him.
Q: My family had got a proposal for me and I was interested but with no solid reason my father refused. He said things like, the boy's family were living far away, and also he is 10 years older then me. I did istikhara many times and I got no negative signs. I do pray daily to turn my heart away from this but it is uncontrollable now. I want advice whether I should ask my family to consider it. I'm afraid that once it mustn't get refused for a reason that is not valid.
Q: There is a proposal for my sister. The guy works for State Farm Insurance. He is senior claims advisor in the total loss department. He works in the auto property damage department. Is his income halal? Should we say no. My sister doesn't like that his income is from insurance.
Q: My mother has selected a bride for my elder brother. He is not happy with the skin color of the bride however the girl comes from a good family and has good character. But my elder brother is not happy as all his friends have beautiful wives. Please provide an explanation so that me, my mother and family can convince my brother. Is there any salah or ayah to offer and fill my brothers life with piece and love?
Q: I am struggling. Basically a boy came to see me for marriage a few months ago, he then rejected me, a similar situation occurd a month after and I was rejected again. This has had a major effect on my self-esteem. I feel down and depressed. I feel i'lll never get married. What duas do I pray to ease my situation. I made a mistake with my first proposal. I asked him questions that hurt his ego, he rejected me saying i'm too tall. This has been my biggest regret throughout my life. Please help!