husband

Husband referring to the wife as partner

Q: I just wanted to let you know that me and my husband both are British citizen. We are married and registered by the Islamic law,and completed our aqd in the mosque.we also have a Muslim marriage certificate. By the way,we did not register our wedding ceremony under the law of Britain. Some people say you have to register and some says that the Islamic marriage certificate is enough and we are legally married. The thing is,my husband always calls me as a "partner" instead of "wife". Even in council or doctor matters,he always says "my partner".it sounds a bit odd and upsetting to me that where Allah has made us husband and wife why do you have to hide that for? He got angry either me that I don't know the law system and he has to call me partner otherwise they would check if we are married under the British law or not.and he says that it's not important to call each other husband wife. My question is,is it right what he says?because I think it's some kind of morality and the word partner doesn't include in morality because that's what girlfriend boyfriend or lover says when they stay together without getting married. I feel so ashamed when my husband calls me partner but he doesn't seem to think this seriously. Is it right that he is calling me partner?

Husband forcing the wife to take an oath

Q: I am 32 years old. I got  married 10 years ago and have three kids. I had a relation in my past with other guy. I wanted to marr him but because of some issues did not get married. My husband is a very nice person but from some relatives of mine he came to know about my past. For the past 10 years I suffered from his anger now I am very much changed and pray, do prayers and istighfaar. My husband asked me to take an oath and touch the Qur'an and tell him everything. I don't want to distroy my marriage life and my three kids life. I also tell him about my past, but my husband wants to know each and everything which I don't want to tell him because I don't feel good. Please guide me. Can I take and oath for saving my marriage life and my kids life.

Mother asking her children for financial assistance

Q: Is it wrong for a mother to seek some assistance from her sons, of which all three are working, even if her husband is working? My sons feel that I must first divorce my husband before they will help me or he must sell his car so he can have more money to maintain me. I only asked for R200 from each of them towards my medical costs. Please advise me if I am wrong in asking them for assistance.

Husband refusing to perform Salaah

Q: I have been married for a year and a half now. The problem is my husband refuses to pray. He used to pray all his five prayers at the beginning, but I don't know what happened. I have tried everything to convince him to pray, but he just wouldn't. I make dua for him everyday, and I don't want to lose hope. We have a son now, and I want him to be a good example for my son. Please advise.

Husband passing away while the spouses were separated

Q: Me and my husband were living separate and the divorce proceedings were in the court pending . Legally we were not divorced and he never said divorce word to me and while the divorce was pending he passed away his parents and family did not contact me about his passing away and when I said to them he was still my husband because divorce wasn't through yet they said no, in our eyes you are divorced and you have got no right to know he passed away. My question is, was their behaviour right about not letting me know about my husband and telling everyone that they are divorced although divorce wasn't through yet ?

Husband not allowing the wife to visit her mother

Q: I like to know that if your husband forbids you to visit your mother with good reason, do you still go without his permission or abide by his command? She has done and said terrible things in past and I really want to see her, but in fear that she will control our lives and say and do those awful things again and cause us to be so stressed he thinks it's wise I stay away. What does one do in this case?

Income of an insurance agent

Q: My husband works as an insurance agent. If he invests his earnings in a business or buys a house to give on rent. Then is the profit acquired from such business or the rent got from the house going to be halaal for us. If not then why, because we are all depending on him? Please answer in the light of Quran and Hadith.