Parents not treating children with equality
Q: What should I do if my parents are not showing equality in all us kids? How should I react?
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Keeping one's children indoors during the evening
Q: Please advise regarding the time between asr and maghrib. We usually have the children inside by asr when narrations of the jinn and shayaateen come out at the time of maghrib only? Please advise regarding which is the best times to have them indoors and please advise regarding being in the bathroom at Maghrib time and midnight?
Children standing in a separate saff for Salaah
Q: Can a child stand with the man in the same row for Salaah. Does the child have to stand in a separate row. Is there any harm for the child to stand with the men. Mufti saheb if there is any hadeeth or reference please do mention it.
Saas ki taraf se pareshaaniya
Q: Mujhe pochna tha ke meri 2 betiyan hain Alhamdulillah nere bache buhat chote hain abhi or meri saas mere sath rehti hain or wo har bat ma kehti hain ye mera haq ha mere bachon ko jo bat wo batati hain mere bache meri bat nai sunte or mujhe poche bagair wo mere bachon ko bahir lejati hain kbi meri nand ke ghar bhejdeti hain or mere husband b kuch nai kehte ulta mujhe he chup karate rehte hain ma bht pareshan ai hui hun kia dadi ka haq bachon pe zayada ha maa se har waqt mere bacho ke samne khti ha tum log dressing achi karo mama se bolo ke tum ye dress nai pehnugy or agr ma dant don bachon ko tu kehti hain tum se bache nai sambhale jate apne kamre ma mere bachon ko lejati hain or ma kuch nai karsakti itni bebasi kia ye islam ha ke wo itne aram ma beta k ghr ma or beti ke ghr k kareb rehti jo chahe karti ha Allah ne apna ghr driver sab diya ha or ek or beta ha par phr b mere or mere bachon ke peche pari ha tang achuki hun ma unse mere hsband tu bs job pe hote ha ya computer pe bethe rehte hain namaz parhne chalejate hain ya khelne chalejate hain humare upar apni maa ko chor dete hain ye kesi neki kamani hui unki waja se kai bar mere husbnd se b larai hui kia ma apne bachon ko kuch keh nai sakti unko dosro k ghr jane se ruk nai sakti ma kia karo mere bache hain ma unse buhat pyar karti hun Allah meri madad karde plz bataye ma kia karun wo apne dosre bete ke pass kio nai jati jab ke wo akela ha usk b neighbour ma uski behan rehti ha ye kio nai jati usk pas... koi hal ha kia is bat ka?
Bringing children to the Musjid
Q: The following appears in an article on the Website of the Jamiat. Is all of this correct?
Tolerating Natural Toddler Antics
Babies grow older to become active and energetic toddlers (known nowadays as ‘preschoolers’), who love climbing on to the laps and backs of adults and playing “rough house”. It is well known that the Prophet not just allowed children in this age-range inside his masjid during obligatory congregational prayers, but also patiently tolerated their antics during prayers, even if these antics caused noise or disturbance.
Reported by Abdullah ibn Shaddad from his father: “The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) came out to lead us in either maghrib or ‘isha’ one night, and he was carrying Hassan or Husain. The Messenger of Allah came forward and put (the child) down, then he said takbir and started to pray. During the prayer, he prostrated and made his prostration long. My father said: “I raised my head and I saw the child on the back of the Messenger of Allah whilst he was prostrating, so I returned to my prostration.” When the Messenger of Allah finished praying, the people said: “O Messenger of Allah, during your prayer you prostrated for so long that we thought something had happened or that you were receiving Revelation.” He said: Nothing at all happened, but my son was riding on my back and I did not want to disturb him until he had had enough. (An-Nisa’i)
This hadith is another great example of how tolerant the Prophet was regarding children’s naughtiness. Imagine a small child in the age-range 2-4 (who can be carried easily) climbing on to the back of a masjid’s imam during prostration nowadays. What do you think his reaction would be? Yet, Prophet Muhammad lengthened his prostration just to let the child continue his enjoyment and innocent play, hereby causing some concern and undoubtedly a bit of chagrin to the worshippers praying behind him in the congregation.
Disobedient children
Q: If kids are disobedient and not listening, what dua should I read?
Neak awlaad ke lia wazifa
Q: Mere age 43 hey. Hamain 2 betiyan hain. Humain ab ulad ki be intiha khuwahish hey, ek pragnency hui thi per bacha 2 months main pet main sookh gaya. Ab dar lagta hey ke koi abnormalit na ho. Kuch perhney aur perhney ko batain ke jaldi pragnency ho aur bacha sehatmand aur tandrust paida ho.
Living with one's mother due to abuse from the father
Q: My mother is divorced due to 30 years of abuse. My father abuses me and my sisters as well. She is remarried now. My sisters wants to live with my mother as our father hurts us and breaks our souls down and our minds. Is it permissible for us to live with my mother as her husband is a very good man Alhamdulilah?
Neak awlaad ke lia wazifa
Q: Allah ke fazal se aur ap ki dua se main umeed se hun, mera pehla mahina hey. Hamain 2 betiyan hain. Es baar hamain bete ki bohot khuwahish hey. Mere age bhi ziyada hey. Mughy kuch esa perhney ya kerney ko batain ke hamain beta paida ho. Allah aap ku khush rakhe.
Making dua for children
Q: We have been trying to conceive for four years. We have had one miscarriage in between. Doctor's are saying my sperm count and motility (speed) is low. I have now left it in Allah's hands. I was just wondering, as a man, what can I do? Is there any Ta'weez as such for males? Is there any Naseehah or Islamic prescription that Hadhrat can give me? Am I allowed to practise the Aa'maal that are normally given to ladies such as fasting, tying Ta'weez around my belly etc?