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Q: I would like to know my husband's brother has accused me of interfering in is life about 12 years ago. He accused me of all sorts of unbelievable things then also accused my husband saying he is aware of what I do. We have asked him to bring the proof of his accusations but till today he can't. We haven't spoken to him since but every now and again he comes up with something new that I apparently did. We have chosen to forget about him as we have tried to resolve the issue many times but he would not listen or believe us and cannot prove anything. We have been accredited for hajj this year. Insha-Allah we have every intention on going I would like to know what do we do in this case with regard to greeting him. I am afraid that should I be the better person and ask for maaf as to clearings conscience incase I have hurt him knowing or unknowingly he might use this against me and say that I did do all those bad things to him and now admitted it and asked for maaf. Also this has caused a split in my husband's family with some believing me and some believing him. I really don't know what to do, I have made so much of dua for Allah to clear my name from the accusations. Do I have to greet him and what does my husband do in this situation. Jazakallah

Q: My question is regarding parents fighting and being separated. They have been fighting my whole life with as time passes fights have gotten uglier with lots of physical and verbal abuse. I am married now and stay a few hours away from them but they still drag me into their arguments and both expect me to say they are right and the other is wrong. I'm really tired and can't deal with it anymore. I just can't move on with my life and they keep dragging me down making me feel guilty that I am happy with my husband. What is the Islamic ruling on parents who do that. I don't want to be disobedient to them in any way because I fear Allah's punishment but I don't know what to do and how to deal with this.

Q: I have a very weird question and you may think I am being irrational but please hear me out. I am married to my husband of 4 years and we have a young infant. I have been noticing for the past year or so that my Mother has taken a liking to my husband. And it is not in a civil Mother in law way, she likes him romantically. I have thought I could be misled and confused but this is why its taken me a year to be fully convinced. I will explain some of the things she does to clarify my assumptions. Firstly i do not live with my parents I stay there every school holiday. My Mum has become very nosy if i am on my phone she comes to look at it. If i am alone in my room with my daughter and my husband video calls she would barge in and interfere (take note she pulls my daughter and gets on the video to him). She always takes my phone. When my husband comes she tries to get his attention she walks by him from the next room in a way where she cant see me but she looks at him. Another thing is she is absolutely furious when i tell her that my husband is loyal. Take note she is always trying to cause problems e.g. his family are bad to you. She wants me to tell him and it always causes us to fight and its silly things. She does this when nobody is around. She also tries to get him closer to my sisters. For example my husband eight now is on holiday so my mum asked me if hes enjoying it and i had told her that he is actually bored. The next thing i see is she rings my sister and tells her that my husband is bored he needs someone to talk to. Basically indirectly telling her to call him. She tries to make me jealous with my own husband. Bare in mind i think my husband knows this i am sure she told him things in my absence. He has told me that my mum is bad so i'm sure he knows. There are so many examples but those are basic things i have noticed. She acts like she is his 'thauba' wife because when my brothers want to eat she acts like it is not her job. She takes my daughter and acts as if shes here to visit. She doesnt like me bonding with my child. Please help me is there a dua or something i can read on her? I trust my husband but i feel like what if he listens one day. I hate to say this but she is acting like a shaythan always trying to come in between our marriage.

Q: My parents were separated when I was two  and divorced when I was 10. Now I live with my father and his 2nd wife. Relationship between her and me is not stable since her entry in the house. She always says something objectionable about me to father and father doesn't investigates. She ruined my character in front of him and my neighbours. Every time hates me. Does anything to distract me from studies, and I am preparing for medical. But she always disturbs me. What shall I do? I complain to father. She puts the blame on me. Anyhow..! What is the solution..? I am not able to tolerate these things anymore.

Q: If you do not agree with the decision your husband has of wanting a second wife, just because you are carrying his second child while wanting a second wife and he gets upset. Can one still get a faskh?

Q: I am living and working in Denmark. I am having a problem with my wife regarding third child. I hereby want to explain you my problem in details. When I married with my wife she had the same problem (Back Pain) that she has today but after the marriage she want baby as soon as possible and she got pregnant after two years of marriage and than after first baby she had the desire for second baby as soon as possible and she got second baby after one year of our first baby and when I asked her for third baby she said that she wish to have third baby but after two years. Whenever I ask her for third baby she replies me that wait some more time and now three years have gone after second baby. I asked my wife now I want third baby because its three years now after the second baby and she replied me that she don't want any more baby due to her disease (Back Pain and bawaseer). Then I asked another Mufti from Denmark. He said that she can't stop me to have third baby. My question is that her disease is the same as it was in beginning, only bawaseer (piles) ka masla new ha. I need this answer with reference to Quran and Sunna because I want my third baby and after your e-mail to her she totally denied for third baby. Looking forward to hear from you.

Q: I have done istikhaara for marraige and I proposed to the man I had in mind. He said that he needs time because he is not financially independent yet. I can wait. But I am confused. Is that a positive or a negative response?

Q: Can you tell me the tips to wake up for Tahajjud prayer?