pleasing one's parents

Marrying someone that one's parents are not pleased with

Q: When I was ignorant about Islam I fell in love with a girl. When I went on the path of Islam I realised my mistake and eventually told her that this is haram. She didnt understand so I left her and made dua to Allah in every prayer to give her hidayat just like He showed me the path, nothing more. Allah miraculously changed her heart in a month and made her curious about Islam. She finally asked one day to know more about Islam on the phone. I sent her Islamic books to read. She became a good Muslim in a short time. She never misses any farz and also gives time with fellow Muslim women in reading hadith to them. I promised her to do nikah with her after asking my parents. But my parents are against it. They are too much depressed in losing dignity in society. My mother even cries for my choice. I told them I would never do nikah without their permission ever in life. But I am emotionally helpless, what should I do? 

Pleasing one's father

Q: I like a girl very much and i am of marriable age. I told my parents about her and they went ahead and visited the girl's house. When i asked my dad if he liked the girl he said he didnt like her but if i persist with this girl he doesn't have a problem and will accept her whole heartedly. My dad has taken this talk forward and it is in the final stages but since this topic has started my dad has almost stopped talking to me. I stay far away from my town because of my job, i try calling my dad multiple times a day he doesn't receive any calls from me. If somehow i get to talk to my dad through my mom he doesn't show any interest in talking to me. I have asked my dad if he is upset or angry on me because of the decision i took he says "No I am not angry on you". I never knew that this would be my dad's reaction after my decision since at the starting itself he said he will accept any decision happily otherwise i wouldn't even have think about this girl ever again. I don't even know if his reaction is due to this decision or because of something else. I tried talking to my mom as well she says that i should keep calling my dad someday he will pick it up. I asked my mom if she can talk to dad and ask what exactly is the reason but even she says that dad isn't angry but i can get to know that there is definitely something wrong. I dont want to keep my dad angry or upset because of me, please tell me how can i solve the issue when my dad isn't talking to me at all ? What do i do when i know he is upset but keeps saying he isnt? Is there any specific dua or wazifa by which can help me in this matter?

Serving one's mother

Q: I am the only child left from three siblings. 6 years ago my wife any myself made a decision to move from Cape Town to Gauteng along with our 3 kids. They are aged now 14, 8, 9. My dad passed on two weeks ago which is leaving my mom alone in Cape Town she is disable and not working. I want to know what does Almighty Allah and the Quran order me to do as my wife is refusing to move back to Cape Town and I want to move as I am not happy in Gauteng in any case. I want to move back to look after my mom. She needs me. In my view a wife is replaceable but my mom not. My wife and myself don’t have a “healthy” marriage in either case. Help me I do not know what to do I cannot sleep or concentrate nor do I eat. This is eating me up.

Larki ke bare larke se khush nahi

Q: Mei kisi se 5 year se bahut piyar karti ho wo bhi bahut karte he. Wo mere mamu ka beta he. Mamu ki taraf se 2 baar rishta bhi aya tha but jab hamare ghar wale agree nahi hoa but ab mamu ko paralise ho gaya hai and mumani ko mei bilkul nahi pasand. Mumani uski shadi kahi aur kara rahi hai hum dono bahut piyar karte he hamne ishtekara bhi karaya hai wo bhi bahut acha aya hai. Aap mufti sahab koi wazifa bataiye jisse mumani ke dil me ajai.

Obedience to parents

Q: After marriage I realized the duty for parents and the position of amma in Islam. Before marriage and in my adolescent I was careless about giving respect to them and being obedient to them. But now I'm suffering from deep regret. I have told them sorry several times and try to make them happy as much as possible. But Now I left my home to my husband . I live in a different city from my parents. So it is too difficult to take care for them. I can only talk regularly, give them gifts sometimes. But nothing else. I have husband, mother in-law, father in-law, sister in-law and three brother in-laws. As a married girl, if I want to do my duty properly to my husband and in law's house, I can do almost nothing to my parents. But how can I get rid from this sin which have I done in my unmarried life to my parents.