tafweez of talaaq

Q: My wife and I have been going through some problems and we have been arguing for a over a year and I was fed up so I gave her the right of divorce (tafweedh), the other day we were arguing and she had just come of the phone with her ex husband, the father of her daughter whom she had also had an argument with. I said to her that she was upset after arguing with him and she was taking it out on me. She said "We always become one afterwards" in urdu and I repeated to her that thats fine you become one with him, you become one and then she said yes we will, sarcastically. I was upset and I repeated it that you become one and then she uttered the words I divorce you, I divorce you, I divorce you in urdu 3 times... Now I dont know where we stand and neither does she. Really, deep down she doesnt want the divorce and to be honest neither did I. Please help us and give us guidance on this matter.

Q: I was married in 2005. To date I have given two divorces to my wife. Now we are living together but my wife feels some insecurity that the third one can happen any time in anger. Now my question is whether I can surrender my divorce right to my wife by amendment in Nikaah Naama etc.

Q: Can a person give the power of talaaq to his parents or someone else who he trusts so that even if he says the words out of frustration anger etc it wouldn't go through?

Q: What is haq-e-talaaq. Can the husband give the wife the rights for divorce. Can he also issue it or only the wife can or both can?

Q: My husband gave me two talaaqs about three months or so and he said to me two days ago if I want my talaak, I can take it and go. Is this considered as my third talaak given or not and he was under the influence of alcohol and he was extremely angry.