walima

Time of walimah

Q: Please advise how exactly is a nikah consummated. Is it necessary for the couple to perform intercourse or even if they slept together that shall be sufficient to perform walimah.

Having a walima after rukhsati

Q: I have been married for less than 6 months and will be having the rukhsati (reception) very soon, probably in a month. My wife and I go out occasionally and sometimes I drop her at work. We hold hands while I drive her to work. Is this wrong? We also cuddle at times. Is this wrong? We kissed few times. Was this wrong? What I mean by wrong was it inappropriate since the valima is yet to happen however I have not consummated her nor do I intend to until the reception is done in shaa allah but just have my concerns since I don't want to do anything wrong. Your advise will be much appreciated as the local muftis told me something about tanhai that if tanhai happened then I have to do valima with in 3 days. I am kinda scared and I don't get the point of tanhai. Also for your information we did have a small ceremony to inform that I have completed the wedding rituals. does this help?

Girls party feeding guests before rukhsati

Q: A couple has done nikah and Rukhsati will be a few months later. The parents want to have a function in a hall and feed the guests to let their daughter go with her husband. After alot of insisting they are not doing that and now they are letting the husband take the daughter directly from the house without any function. The girl's side would like to feed their guests. The groom is totally against this. Can the parents feed their guests with another intention and not for the rukhsati?

Waleemah

Q: I am engaged to be married. My bride to be is doing her degree from home. She wants to stay at home till completion. So our families decided to hold the nikah soon and let me stay at her place to consummate the marriage. After she completes her degree we bring her home and give the traditional dinner party. Is that permissible in Islam? Please sight hadith for me to prove it to my neighbors.

Shared waleemah

Q: I have an important concern in which I need a clarification from you please. I will explain you the scenario first for your understanding. Two Nikaahs. The first one is mine, the Nikkah is completely based on Sunnah which is insha Allah will be very simple and with proper mahar, this nikkah commences on the first day night of the second nikkah which is going to happen on the second day noon. The second day nikkah is for my sister. This nikaah is also with proper mahar and no dowry, but this Nikaah is done based on the traditions that take place in our place with Kuthbas and fatiha by the imaams and they recite Alli kuth bainama in the kuthba which here local scholars confirming this as bida'h. So on this second day my sisters husband is arranging a waleema in which he does not collect single penny from his wife's family. My question is can I Share my waleema with him? I mean, I need to give waleema right? Can me and my sister's husband share financially and give waleema to our family and relatives. Is this bida'h? Please I need your valuable input based on Shariah Sheik.